* Whoopi Goldberg laughed, as did most of the audience at her Friars Club roast in New York City. But boyfriend Ted Danson's appearance in blackface and his racially peppered jokes angered Mayor David Dinkins, talk show host Montel Williams and others. "I was confused as to whether or not I was at a Friars event or at a rally for the KKK and Aryan Nation," Williams said in a telegram to the Friars. Friars' roasts traditionally are no-holds-barred affairs at which the guest of honor is skewered by jokes that often are crude. The roastee then gets a chance to respond, in kind. Dinkins said later that the jokes at Friday's roast "were pretty vulgar and many were way, way over the line." Not so, Goldberg said in a statement yesterday, saying she was roasted "with humor and a great deal of affection." The uproar came over Danson's arrival on the dais at the 89th annual roast. Danson was in blackface makeup, with huge white lips, wearing a tuxedo and top hat. Model Beverly Johnson, who is black, also defended Danson's performance. "If you can't see the humor at a place where there's supposed to be over-the-line jokes, then there's something really wrong," she told the Daily News. Publicists for Danson did not return phone messages yesterday. In a statement yesterday, the Friars said they were "saddened by the racially offensive nature of some of the material. . . . We apologize to Mayor Dinkins, Montel Williams and all others who were offended by the racial remarks."