Question: We were married in April. Our minister gave us a stack of old vows, photocopied from books, from which to draft our own vows. None of them was usable. We did the usual love, honor and cherish - but we added a part about being friends and partners, and we agonized for a ridiculous amount of time over which word should go where, editing until we both agreed the vows were perfect.
Last month we went to another wedding at our church and they used the vows we wrote - verbatim. I was in shock. I am P.O.'d at the minister for giving our personal vows to another couple. He didn't give us any vows that had been used this century, so I guess it's a compliment, and I don't know what I want. An acknowledgment? A promise not to give "our" vows to anyone else? Should I let it go? I don't know why I felt so violated. I haven't gone back to church since.