Long separated, Liberian family celebrates holiday together

December 25, 2010|By Kia Gregory, Inquirer Staff Writer
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  • Mark and Amelia Kettor (at right) sit with other members of the family in their three-bedroom row home in the Elmwood section of Southwest Philadelphia. After seven lonesome Christmases split between the United States and Liberia, the Kettors will celebrate together.
  • Mark and Amelia Kettor (at right) sit with other members of the family in their three-bedroom row home in the Elmwood section of Southwest Philadelphia. After seven lonesome Christmases split between the United States and Liberia, the Kettors will celebrate together.
  • A family reunited: Baindu (front left), 20, and (left to right) Marie, 14; mother Sarah; Mark, 12; Amelia, 18; father James; John, 25; and Elizabeth, 24, in the kitchen of the Kettor home. James Kettor Jr. is not pictured.

This year, James Kettor bought a tree. The artificial evergreen stands near the television in the living room, draped in colorful lights. And for the family's holiday dinner, from the small kitchen, his wife, Sarah, will prepare nine bowls of rice, with cassava and palava sauce, instead of two.

Through seven lonesome Christmases, the Kettors were separated: the parents in Philadelphia trying to scratch out a version of the American dream, and the children - from the eldest, John, 25, through Elizabeth, James Jr., Baindu, Amelia, and Marie to the youngest, 12-year-old Mark - living with an uncle thousands of miles away in the brutal shadows of war-torn Liberia.

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After all the paperwork for visa applications, and the church fund-raisers for airfare from Africa, the Kettors will finally, joyously share Christmas under one roof, in their modest three-bedroom rowhome in the Elmwood section of Southwest Philadelphia.

"I never had a family here," said James Kettor, 48, a short, solid, gracious man, sitting on a sofa by the tree, near John, Elizabeth, and James Jr.

"We tell God 'Thank you' for us to be here as family once again."

On Christmases past in Monrovia, the capital of Liberia, James Kettor recalled, children paraded before their friends in new clothes, families shared their feasts with neighbors, and people danced in jubilee. The Kettors mostly stayed inside.

"We couldn't do anything much," he said. They didn't have much money.

Such challenges followed them to America.

James Kettor graduated from Temple University in May with a degree in public health, paid for with student loans. He works at a mental-health facility where he dispenses medicine, prepares meals, and plans social activities, mostly during the midnight shift, earning $9.33 an hour.

His wife, 44, starts her workday at 5 a.m., when she leaves the house to make a two-hour public transit commute to Delaware County, where she works eight hours at a fast-food chain.

To reunite the family, the Kettors had to find a sponsor, a government requirement to assure that the children would be cared for financially. They found two such samaritans through their church, St. Francis de Sales in West Philadelphia, and through parish events they raised enough money for the children's travel expenses.

The church also helped them find a scholarship for the two youngest children, Marie and Mark, to attend Catholic school.

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