Q: I'm expecting my first baby soon and was wondering if I can control visits from the grandparents. Both sets live out of town. The problem is, while I want my mom to come out and help ASAP, I'd rather my mother-in-law waited a month or so until I was more prepared to deal with company. My husband says it's not fair to make his mom wait. Is there a way to stall my in-laws' visit without offending them? Or do I just have to let them do whatever they want?
Steve: You and your husband get to call the shots on this one. It sounds like his in-laws are more work for you. Easy solution: His parents can come sooner, but he has to take off from work that week to help you out. If he doesn't like that, then they have to wait a month. Whoever visits first, make sure that each set of grandparents gets to spend the same amount of time with their new grandchild.