Dear Abby: Co-ed fears high school past will haunt her college future

Posted: July 23, 2011

DEAR ABBY: In the past, I made several seriously awful decisions about guys. I also spent two years in high school off and on with a young man who only made my life dramatic and exhausting. Now that I'm a freshman in college, I have encountered several guys I'd love to have a relationship with, but I feel unworthy. Because of my bad decisions and the fact that I knew these guys before they attended school with me here, I'm worried my past will catch up with me.

What should I do to make a connection with one of these young men?

- Undeserving in Idaho

DEAR UNDESERVING: If these friends are implying that it's all right to drink, use drugs, use foul language and do things with guys that you're ashamed of later, then it's time to change friends.

I believe in the philosophy of constant self- improvement. When you improve yourself to the point that you are proud of yourself, you will attract men who have more to offer than the ones you were involved with in high school.

DEAR ABBY: When I was growing up, manners were taught at home, but now it seems etiquette has been placed on the back burner. As an elementary schoolteacher, I try to emphasize the importance of good manners, and I'm amazed and disappointed at the lack of interest from the parents of my students. Have you any ideas on how to bring this skill back to the forefront?

- Doing My Best

in Amarillo

DEAR DOING YOUR BEST: You are right to deliver that life lesson to your students. After spending a year with you, they will have it down pat. As for their parents, it's too late.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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