Steve and Mia: 3-way sex: He loved it, but she's jealous

Q: I've been in a relationship with a great girl for almost two years. About six months ago, during an evening involving drinking, we ended up in a three-way with an unhappily married friend of hers. We've continued to get together until jealousy reared its ugly head. Any suggestions on how to keep the peace (and the fun)?

Steve: Well, that's the problem with a menage a trois, isn't it? Someone always feels like the trois. If your girlfriend is a great girl, she's worth cutting back on the fun rather than risk losing her. You'll still have your memories.

Mia: Put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes. Every time she sees her friend she's picturing you groping her breasts or doing whatever else it was that you did. The freaky flashbacks are making her crazy. The question is, do you want to deal with your girlfriend's insecurity? Is she worth it to you? Only you can answer.

Q: There are some women's clothes in my new boyfriend's apartment that I assumed for the longest belonged to his former roommate, who is female. But one night we were trading secrets and he confessed that sometimes he wears women's clothes. I was glad he opened up to me, because it made me feel really close to him. But now I can't get over the idea that I might be sexually involved with a cross-dresser or someone who has gender issues. I don't want to just dump him, but I'm in over my head.

Mia: Run, girlfriend, run. If you're not in that deep, then get out. There's no sense in complicating your life over a man you're not even in love with. Run!

Steve: Pretty harsh, Mia. What if he looks great in a Versace? Plus he'd never complain when you want to go shopping.