Steve and Mia: When one lewd turn deserves another

Posted: October 07, 2011

Q: I've been dating a wonderful man for about six months, but he has a bad habit that drives me crazy. Whenever we are out and an attractive woman comes into view, he stares at her. We'll be talking in a restaurant and, all of a sudden, his head turns, he stops talking and he's looking at another woman. It's embarrassing and humiliating. I've complained about it, but he doesn't stop. I don't want to become a nag, but this is becoming a drag. Suggestions?

Mia: The next time you see a cute guy, turn your head all the way around and watch him. Make sure your guy notices what you're doing. If he dares to complain, remind him that he does the same thing. Then, do it again. Make a real show of it. If Mr. Wonderful still doesn't take the hint and knock off the rubbernecking, then you have to decide if he's really so wonderful after all.

Steve: As long as he doesn't whistle and shout, "Hubba hubba," you should think nothing of it. Just kidding! What he's doing is rude. Each partner has a right to expect a minimum of courtesy from the other. If he can't even give you that, long-term prospects aren't good.

Q: My wife has always suffered from fits of hormonal rage, and as she's getting older, it seems to be getting worse. The slightest thing I do sets her off. The kids also can do nothing right. I've tried telling her to calm down, but that only makes things worse. I'm fed up. I shouldn't have to walk on eggshells in my own home. Nor should I have to put up with a raving lunatic. That's harsh, but that's the way she sounds sometimes.

Mia: When she loses it, don't engage her. Take the kids for ice cream and don't come back until the storm subsides. When she's calm, tell her that you've made an appointment for her to be evaluated by a medical professional. Then, go with her. Maybe she's depressed and needs medication to help her regain her balance.

Steve: Sounds like anger-management therapy is in order.

Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. For answers email S&M@phillynews.com or write: S&M c/o Daily News, 400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia, PA 19130.

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