Dear Abby: Childhood piano lessons: same song, second verse

Posted: November 03, 2011

DEAR ABBY: I had to respond to the letter from "Discordant Family." I agree with you that the children should not be forced to play piano. However, let me offer an alternative. Many young pianists quit because practicing is such a solitary chore. I'd recommend finding the kids a community music program they would enjoy.

Perhaps their friends are involved with a chamber or duet group, or a music camp. Set the completion of the group project as a goal and allow them to move on (if they still want to) once they've reached that goal rather than quit on the spot.

I, too, wanted to quit piano lessons at 13, but my mother insisted I persist until age 16. Then I joined my high school's theater program as its pianist. Being part of community music-making is standard for most musicians, but it's rare for young pianists. There is an added social element. They develop other skills.

I'm 26 now and have made a career as a collaborative pianist. It's given me an opportunity to travel, meet Broadway actors, play in rock bands, learn language skills - and more!

- Happy Pianist in Austin

DEAR PIANIST: Thank you for your helpful suggestions. Forcing children to do something they hate seems, to me, counterproductive when there are so many constructive, creative things they could be doing.

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