Dear Abby: Birth of a baby should not be a spectator sport

Posted: November 08, 2011

DEAR ABBY: "Pregnant with Apprehension" said she's dreading the birth of her second baby because her fiancé's mother wants to witness the birth. "PWA" wants only her mother and her fiancé, "Cliff," in the delivery room. You said her wishes should be paramount. I agree.

I am a labor and delivery RN in California. Many people today view birth as a sporting event. It's worse when the mother-in-law wants to be there because "it's her right."

"PWA" should let Cliff know if he can't stand up to his mom, her labor nurse will! I will be the one who informs visitors that it's hospital policy that there be only two people at the bedside, and there is NO bending the rule. That way, the mother-in-law can hate the nurse, but not her daughter-in-law or her son. I'll willingly take the heat for my patient if it means a better labor outcome for her and the family.

- "Because I Said So"

DEAR "BECAUSE": Thank you for agreeing with me. However, others had observations.

DEAR ABBY: For "PWA" to say she doesn't want Cliff's parents to see their grandchild for two weeks is selfish, and I don't think she should demand that her fiancé back her up on this. Her mother is going to be there from the moment of birth. His parents have a lot to offer and can be a big help to her.

- Blessed to Be a Nana

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