Q: The holidays are here, and once again I'm dreading them. My husband's parents are divorced and each insists we visit them on Christmas. My parents are together and, of course, they insist we come to dinner so they can enjoy their grandchildren. My husband's brother always holds a big Christmas Eve bash at his house, which is two hours away. Any suggestion that we skip his party is viewed as an insult. My husband and I both work, and all this makes this time of year a nightmare. We have no time to plan for our own Christmas, usually end up fighting, and if we cut any visits short, our families lay a guilt trip on us. Help!
Mia: If you don't want to house-hop for the holidays, then don't. Tell all of your relatives that you and your husband are starting a new tradition. Then invite everyone to your house. Maybe you'll have open house on Christmas Day, or throw a party the day after. The point is that your relatives shouldn't be guilt-tripping you about your holiday plans. And you should woman up and stop worrying about what other folks think. I know the holidays are about giving, but if you don't make yourself happy, who will?