Q: I am getting a divorce and finding that I'm in love with my best friend. It seems that the two are related, but they are not. I was already at the end of my marital rope when I discovered that my BFF was the man of my dreams. He has been my best friend since 1986-87 and is someone whom I talk to about everything. He has never interfered in my marriage, and I never interrupted his relationships. We were the epitome of a platonic friendship. So what do I do now? Some of my friends say I should wait and get myself together first. My close friends say to get my man! If I could turn off my feelings for BFF, then I would do so to get through this divorce. He has been part of my life for the past quarter-century, and I am only 39. But I don't want to make a rebound mistake. I don't want to ruin my longest friendship ever. I don't want to get stuck in another bad romance.
Steve: Before worrying about the cart, consider the horse. How does he feel about you? He may not want to blow up a great friendship by adding the explosive of sex and romance. And even if he's willing, that doesn't guarantee a happy ending. You want a guarantee, go to Sears.