Steve and Mia: She's ready to dump all three of her lovers if they don't give her Valentine's Day gifts

Posted: February 03, 2012

Q: I've been dating three men, but none of them is exactly what I want. One is bossy. One is lovely. One is just plain sexy. I'm not sure that any of these relationships is going to lead to marriage, which is my goal. I've decided I'm going to dump them all after Valentine's Day if I don't get a present. Am I doing the right thing?

Steve: What if all three of them buy you nice presents? I suggest you wait until Presidents Day. Anyone not giving you a Presidents Day present is gone.

Mia: Men may have the Super Bowl but Valentine's Day is ours. So, yes, dump the losers if they don't make you feel extra special on Feb. 14. Just make sure that this is what you really want. You may have a lot of cold nights to get through before spring - and your new boyfriend - arrive.

Q: My guy and I were sharing sexual secrets and he told me something that for me really crossed the line. It was about him and another guy. I can't get the idea of him being sexually involved with another man out of my mind. I'm ready to bounce, but I feel mean, because he was being only being honest when he told me.

Mia: If your feelings have changed, then they've changed. No need to explain to him why, unless you want to. Be gentle with him, though. Just tell him as kindly as you can that you've decided to see other people, and that you wish him the best.

Steve: You don't say how long you've had this relationship, but it can't be long, or very good, if this is all it takes to end it.


Steve is a 50-something married man; Mia is a younger, recently married, with an altogether different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. For answers email S&M@phillynews.com or write: S&M c/o Daily News, 400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia, PA 19130.

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