He wrote the book on relationships

KEVIN CARR was driving a pregnant relative to Albert Einstein Medical Center to give birth when he asked where her boyfriend was.

The mother-to-be hadn't heard from him in two weeks - not that it mattered much, since he was a cheat, a batterer and a deadbeat. Yet, this was the second baby of his that she was having. After dropping her off, Carr went to his job at PNC Bank but couldn't concentrate on inputting checks, so he started writing. Before long, he had written the introduction for his self-published book, If All Men Are Dogs . . . Then Women Hold the Leash. "The book isn't coming from a point of condemnation. It's coming from a place of love," said Carr, who now does marketing for Radio One. "It's me saying, please recognize that power and please don't allow me to become more important that I really am."

He plans to present his unique perspective at a women-only workshop Saturday at the "Black Love Experience" sponsored by the NAACP and the Philadelphia Sunday Sun. The conference, which originally was going to be called "Repairing Black Relationships," was organized to encourage young people who are more accustomed to hooking up for sex than having actual relationships, to talk about their romantic relationships.

"I'm not necessarily sure that for men in my generation that marriage is the ultimate," said Kiarra Solomon, 23, social-

media editor for the Philadelphia Sunday Sun. They might think, "Why would I want to commit to the one girl to date her seriously when I have these other women?"

The conference also will include speed-dating and discussions on topics such as the new rules for dating in 2012. The event, from noon to 5 p.m., at Temple's Student Faculty Center, Broad and Ontario streets, is free, but you must reserve a place. Lunch will be served. For info, call 215-848-7864.

- Jenice Armstrong