Steve: Sounds like your man isn't carrying his share of the family workload. I like Mia's idea of a getaway. While you're enjoying it, have a good conversation about him helping out more.
Q: I'm HIV-positive. Recently, I was riding the bus, and I saw my former lover. It brought up so many emotions that I didn't know what to do. So I just got off before my stop. He didn't see me. Now, every time I get on SEPTA, I'm worried about bumping into him again. I don't know whether to punch him in the face or just let it go. I mean, if I don't get back with him, who's going to want me?
Steve: Being HIV-positive doesn't mean you can't have a relationship. Reach out to a support group where you'll find many in your situation.
Mia: Hold off on doing anything before you talk with someone. Bebashi (215-769-3561) or the Council for Relationships (215-575-9140) are good places to start.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with a different attitude. For answers email S&M@phillynews.
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