Dear Abby: Should student spill beans on her prof's behavior

Posted: February 29, 2012

DEAR ABBY: I am a 19-year-old student taking courses at a community college. One of my classes is taught by a great professor who also works at a state college teaching other teachers.

After an evening class with him one night, I returned to the classroom because I forgot something and ended up walking with him back to the parking lot.

While putting stuff into my car I saw him get into another student's car. I waited a while without them realizing I was there and ended up seeing my professor and this student smoking weed and fooling around.

I feel angry and betrayed knowing he would put his career in danger. They are both consenting adults, but I don't know whether I should report it or not. What do you think?

- Betrayed Student

on the West Coast

DEAR STUDENT: Unless you have absolute proof that your professor was smoking something other than tobacco, I think you should keep your mouth shut.

As you said, he was with another consenting adult. Are you sure your feelings of anger and betrayal aren't jealousy?

Because you asked what I think, I'll tell you: Mind your own business.

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