Steve and Mia: Wife uses porn sites to turn her husband on

Posted: March 09, 2012

Q: My husband and I are very busy - work and kids take up a lot of our daily lives. I recently found that if I want sex and I link my husband to a porn site I like, I get very good results. My friends who are my age (40-plus) complain about not getting enough sex. I told them how I use porn sites to encourage my husband. I got very negative reactions. Is it really abnormal for women to look at porn? Why do people find this so strange?

Steve: No, it's not abnormal for women to enjoy porn, although the porn women favor differs from porn geared toward men. Not sure why anyone would find this strange, other than the standard societal hypocrisy on the subject of sex. If it's helping your marriage, that strikes me as a good thing.

Mia: Everything in moderation. Indulging in a little porn every now and then shouldn't harm things, but a steady diet could get him more fixated on the screen's XXX images than on you. Do you really want the comparisons?

Q: I have an attractive sister-in-law, and lately I've been obsessing about her. I love my wife, but when her sister comes to visit (with her husband), I start having all these fantasies. I don't want to do anything to mess up my marriage, but I would love to get rid of these fantasies before I do something stupid. Any ideas? Should I mention it to my wife?

Mia: Mention it your wife only if you have a death wish.

Steve: Imagine being murdered by your sis-in-law's husband. Then imagine being murdered by your wife. Those fantasies should help neutralize your current one.


Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. For answers email S&M@phillynews.com or write: S&M c/o Daily News, 400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia, PA 19130.

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