Steve and Mia: Divorcee turned 40 and became invisible to the opposite sex

Posted: March 16, 2012

Q: I am a divorced mother in her 40s. After I turned 40, I realized that I had become completely invisible to members of the opposite sex. It was a very odd feeling. They could look right through me and see things behind me. When I was in my 20s, I had no shortage of suitors. But now that I am single again, at this age, what are my chances of finding anyone besides leftover losers?

Mia: Your chances are great, provided you're not looking for guys who notice you for your looks alone - and you're not doing the same to them.

Steve: Ah, yes, invisibility. I remember it well. I was about your age. It's actually liberating. You don't have to worry about the opposite sex because, to them, you don't exist. But Mia's right. There are plenty of other invisible people who can keep you company.

Q: My husband uses St. Patrick's Day as his chance to get sloppy-drunk. He does this every year. One year he got fresh with some tramp he met at the bar and I'm still not over it. I'm dreading a repeat of the madness. Help!

Mia: Honesty and confidence are the only way to approach this one. Have you let your husband know how you feel? As much as he's entitled to his one-day-a-year bender, you deserve a promise that he'll behave himself, green beer and all. A short and direct pre-Patty's Day heart-to-heart should clear things up.

Steve: Was the tramp wearing a "Kiss Me, I'm Irish" T-shirt?


Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. For answers email S&M@phillynews.com or write: S&M c/o Daily News, 400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia, PA 19130.

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