Because my sister is openly confrontational about it, she isn’t invited to family events that he is attending. I am invited because I just ignore him, but it’s uncomfortable knowing my parents took his side over that of their two daughters. I won’t let my daughter be alone with him — or with him and my mom, because I don’t trust her anymore.
Should I tell my parents I no longer want to be around him?
— Wronged in Georgia
DEAR WRONGED: Yes, if it will make you feel better, by all means do. That your parents would ignore your brother’s predatory behavior is appalling. By protecting him, your mother betrayed you and your sister.
You are also wise to be vigilant if he is anywhere around your daughter and to restrict contact with him to a minimum. No child is safe around your brother.
If you and your sister haven’t had counseling to come to terms with what happened to you, please consider contacting the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network. The website is rainn.org, and the toll-free number is 800-656-4673. n