King's father, Ronald, had already begun the day's drinking out in the garage. He had scant patience for his boys' wide-eyed horror. That, he told them between swallows from a can of stout malt liquor, was the way things were. If the boys were smart, they would keep out of the backseats of patrol cars.
There was no way then or now to prove Rodney King's story, but it has the ring of truth. Glen, as friends and family called King, was born two months after the assassination of Malcolm X and four months before the Watts riots. He was 3 when the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. died and a whole new round of rioting scorched African American neighborhoods across the nation. More than 20 years would pass before Rodney King's beating would trigger the next nationally televised race rage.
There is a great, aching irony in King's dying on Sunday, a day commemorating fatherhood. He left behind three children and outlived his own father by five years. Ronald King drank himself to death in a bathtub at home. Rodney, who was still in high school, was the one who discovered the body.
His father earned a living cleaning office buildings after hours, often bringing his sons along to help. Rodney remembered running the vacuum at 3 a.m., watching helplessly while his father opened another can of beer.
Years before his well-documented run-in with police, when the old fear of getting into the back of a patrol car sparked the beat-down seen around the world, King learned to self-medicate like his old man. Expanding beyond his father's choices, he tried marijuana, PCP, cocaine — whatever he could acquire to deaden the fear and anxiety. But he always washed it down with alcohol, just like Dad.
I attended a Narcotics Anonymous meeting with him once, long before he became a star on Dr. Drew Pinsky's group-therapy reality show. King told his story to fellow addicts with genuine emotion that rumbled up and out of the deepest part of him, and he won their empathy and affection. He won mine, too.
Rodney Glen King was no angel. He brought much of his trouble on himself. From the first time we met, a few years after the 1992 riots, he struck me as basically sweet-natured but always blundering into one disaster after another. I remember visiting him at his home in Rialto, east of Los Angeles, days after he had slammed an SUV into a retaining wall. Judging by the crumpled SUV, he shouldn't have survived; but there he was, grinning his infectious grin, scooting around in a wheelchair with a busted pelvis, aching to give life one more try.
He never sought the spotlight. When it found him, he was shy and ill-equipped to cope. Milton Grimes, his first and most supportive attorney, encouraged him to utter the five words for which he will be remembered most. They came from the heart of a frightened 9-year-old whose own father could not protect him from eeny-meeny-miny-moe justice.
When King drowned in his pool on Father's Day, 20 years after the riots that will always be associated with him, I thought first of all the drunks before him who gave up on life. But on reflection, King's true legacy shone past the booze and the pills and the reckless, aimless behavior that always haunted him.
Can we all get along? Mostly, yes, thanks in some small way to him. And when we can't, we try harder than we ever did before.
Dennis McDougal is a former Los Angeles Times staff writer. He is producing "Getting Along," a documentary about the life and times of Rodney King.