DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Albert," divorced me three years ago. Afterward, I found out he was with a 28-year-old woman he had met in a bar. After she took him for what little money he had, he came crawling back to me. Like a fool, I stupidly took him back because I still had feelings for him.
Last week, I caught Albert on the Internet inviting a 23-year-old woman to play bingo over the weekend. Then I discovered another email indicating he had actually met her.
I kicked him out, of course. Albert never supported me; I always paid my own way.
We were together for 22 years, Abby, and now I wish I had every one of them back.
Why do old men search for young women to run around with, and why do young women think all old men have money?
— Used in the Midwest
DEAR USED: Older men like young women because it helps them forget, for a little while, how old they really are. Also, young women tend to be more naive and less judgmental, assuming that gray temples are a sign of wisdom. They also assume that after decades in the workforce an older man has a sizable nest egg.
You are not the only woman who has listened to her heart and made the same mistake twice — or more. Consider yourself ahead of the game because you are not economically dependent on your husband. Take the lessons you have learned, move on and have a happy life. You deserve it.
You'll be fine without this compulsive two-timer. Trust me!
