DEAR ABBY: I am a 29-year-old gay man. In my community, coming out at work isn't an option. I really like my job and want to keep it, but a female colleague is not only trying to persuade me to go out with her, but she has gotten our co-workers involved. I'm constantly pressured by my supervisor to just "give her a chance." I have already told everyone I'm not interested in mixing my personal and work lives, and I want to come to work only to work - not upgrade my marital status. But the pressure from everyone has gotten worse. I dread coming to work.
Would it be unethical to hire a "girlfriend" to stop by the office next week to bring me lunch? Maybe if I kiss and hug her as I say goodbye, my co-workers will back off. If not this, can you recommend something else?