DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a divorced woman for four years, and we are now engaged to be married.
She said in the beginning of our relationship that she had very little sexual experience because her former husband "had problems."
She then decided after the divorce that she would find out what she was missing. She hasn't discussed this in detail, but once in a while she lets out little snippets of information that lead me to believe she was active.
Do I have a right, now that we're engaged, to know how many partners she had since the divorce? She's being evasive about it.
- Wondering Widower
DEAR WONDERING: No, you do not have that "right" to know how many partners she had.
If she does answer the question, your next inquiries will be what are their names, how many times did she sleep with them and were they better than you are in bed.
Those past experiences should not affect what you have with her.
Sometimes, it is wiser to leave the past in the past and simply appreciate the special relationship you have with the person you love.
