Writing all this, I know he sounds strange but other than being on the cheap side, he's a good guy. He's very smart, owns his townhouse and has a nice car. Plus, he doesn't have any kids, which is hard to find at my age.
Mia: You're settling. Don't expect us to cosign on that. That guy is weird, and you know it. Let him disinfect himself with alcohol if he wants to, but don't you stick around to watch.
You deserve someone who'll lift you up - not a man who thinks you need a scrub down before he gets naked with you. You deserve better. Keep telling yourself that as you work on forgetting Mr. Clean.
Steve: So the guy's a little germophobic. I wouldn't dump him unless his behavior is really starting to get on your nerves. Consider how you might feel about this a year or two from now. If the thought scares you, then I'd take Mia's advice and split.
Q: My boyfriend is a good lover, except he's a Quick Draw McGraw kind of guy. We've tried a few techniques we found online to slow things down, but nothing has worked.
We pretty much gave up two months ago, and it's gotten worse. He just does his thing, and I lay there afterward and wonder what I'm doing and why I'm with him. I think the relationship died a while ago, but I don't want to hurt his feelings by leaving.
Steve: The sex has gone sour and the relationship is dead. Hmmm, what to do, what to do? OK, I got it. Break up!
Mia: Yo, if you don't love him, then the only thing you can do is leave. Otherwise, what's the point? Something tells me he knows you guys are finished, so it won't be that big of a surprise when you finally cut things off.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.
