Q: I just started dating a guy I met online two months ago. We get along well and have a lot in common.
The problem is, he is 20 and I am 30. We have strong feelings for each other but he is embarrassed about my age. He worries what his family and friends will think about him being with an older woman.
I don't know what to do, 'cause one minute he has feelings and the next he doesn't. I would like to show this guy age is just a number.
I already was so depressed about my age, and he makes it worse. Also, I have always been attracted to younger guys.
How can I make him get over the age difference?
Mia: Dang, girl. Don't tap-dance for that chump. No woman should ever put herself in the position of trying to prove her worth to some bozo who believes she's somehow flawed.
You're beautiful, fabulous and wonderful. Your age is something to be celebrated, not be ashamed of. Remember that and send that youngster back to school.
Steve: A "Maggie May"! (You young'uns can Google "Rod Stewart" for the reference.) I dreamed of a gal like you when I was 20.
Q: I'm dating a really nice guy. There are a couple of things I don't like about him, such as the fact that he doesn't celebrate holidays.
Most days that doesn't bother me, but with Christmas coming again, it's starting to piss me off.
Last year he gave me money but only after I caused a fuss because he didn't buy me a present.
I love everything about the holidays - the caroling, the parties, lighting the Advent wreath, my mom's homemade fruitcake.
For him, Christmas is just a day off from work. He spent the last holiday on his Xbox. How do I get him into the holiday spirit?
Steve: Is this a religious thing? You mean he doesn't even celebrate Arbor Day? What about Boxing Day? Does he celebrate Boxing Day? If not, dump him.
Mia: Honey, you can't. He has to come to it on his own. And while we're on the subject, read the first letter, because there are similarities between you and that other letter-writer. You both are controllers who want to change your boyfriends.
That's wrong, wrong, wrong.
Women waste way too much time trying to give some poor sap a makeover. That energy would be far better spent finding the man they really want.
