Steve and Mia: Does coed have future with her bisexual beau?

Posted: January 18, 2013

Q: I'm a senior in college and dating a guy who admits to having fooled around sexually with his guy friends. Nothing serious from what I can tell, but when he was in high school, he participated in some sort of circle ritual.

I won't share with you what he did, but I will say it was weird. He also made out with his roommate once or twice.

That was a long time ago.

He says he's in love with me, and I love him back. My friends say I'm unrealistic to think there could be a future with him. But doesn't true love conquer all? We both graduate in May and are trying to find jobs in the same city.

Mia: Whoa, sweetie, slow down. You've got to be really careful. You and your guy may be happy now, but what happens five years from now when he has an itch

you're not equipped to scratch?

You're still young, so I suggest you focus on your career goals and aspirations and not worry so much about what he's doing.

If you're right for each other and you go your separate ways, you'll find your way back together. And if you do, you'll have to deal with the issue of his sexuality. Move slowly and make sure to practice safer sex.

Steve: Your guy is bisexual. But if he truly loves you, that doesn't give him an excuse to stray. If the relationship is right, the bisexuality won't matter.

Q: I hate going to the stores seeing Valentine's Day things on the shelves because I never get anything. I've been married 10 years and my husband couldn't care less about Valentine's Day. He says it's a Hallmark holiday.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Besides, I could use some loving.

By the way, my husband won't even be home on Valentine's Day. He'll be away on business! When I pointed this out to him, he shrugged.

Mia: Do you have a joint credit card? If so, you need to treat yourself to a little something something for Valentine's Day. Nothing too extravagant. Just something to make you smile. And make some plans so you're not home all alone on Valentine's Day night.

But there's no sense making a big deal out of it. It's just one day. Millions of other women are going to be miserable, too, because they don't have a guy or their guy doesn't care enough to buy them anything. Maybe you and some friends should get together and have a potluck.

Steve: Hey, what about guys? Lots of men are lonely on Valentine's Day too. We gotta figure out a way to get those two groups together, Mia.


Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.

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