Dear Abby: Open your heart to lonely loved ones on Valentine's Day

Posted: February 12, 2013

DEAR ABBY: Valentine's Day is approaching, and I wanted to write concerning those of us who are single by choice, by circumstance, because of the death of a spouse or following divorce.

This holiday was set aside to celebrate love and lovers, but it can be a lonely time for people who find themselves without a significant other. Valentine's Day is so commercialized that one is bombarded by ads for gifts and candy from every angle, which only enforces one's aloneness. The message is subtly sent - but received loud and clear - that an individual without a partner is worthless.

I would like to urge your readers this year to include those who are alone in their celebration of this day.

- Solo in Texas

DEAR SOLO: Thank you for your letter. Readers, if you're feeling down because you don't have a special valentine, the surest cure for the blues is to do something for someone else. Call someone who's alone to say, "I'm thinking about you."

And if you love someone, tell him or her now; please don't wait until next Valentine's Day to be a sweetheart.

DEAR ABBY: I have had an embarrassing problem ever since elementary school: I bite my nails and cuticles until they bleed. If the pain is severe or I see a piece of cuticle hanging, I stop until it heals. But then I start up again. How can quit this ugly habit?

- Manic in Grandview, Mo.

DEAR MANIC: You have a problem that I'm told is shared by one in 12 adults. There is more than one solution for it, and the common denominator in all of them is motivation. Some helpful suggestions submitted by readers in years past include carrying emery boards, reminding yourself of the number of germs that get trapped underneath your nails on a daily basis, wearing gloves as much as possible and talking with a doctor about medication for obsessive behaviors.

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