DEAR HARRY: My father lives in the suburbs of Harrisburg. He is now mentally incapacitated. He sometimes knows who I am, but he almost never recognizes my sister. About 10 years ago, we persuaded him to give his longtime caretaker a general power of attorney. She pays his bills and keeps his records up to date in addition to caring for him. Dad has always disliked wills. He believed the superstition that making a will causes you to die soon afterward. Last week, my sister called me after visiting my father and told me she saw a will signed by his caretaker as power of attorney. It left all to her except for $25,000 each to us. His estate is worth at least $1.5 million, according to his accountant. I'm certain he knows nothing about this. Do we fire his caretaker? Do we destroy that will? Do we move him to a nursing home in this area? Help!