Question: I'm a single mom in my 40s with three girls. My boyfriend and I are discussing marriage. The question is timing and logistics. We have an issue of how well he and my children (9 to 15) can live together, given their loudness, friends coming and going, his need for quiet.
The issue that has come up recently is about the wedding ceremony. He comes from a very, very small family and has a few close friends. I have a very large family with many more friends, plus a church family. His mother is agoraphobic with social anxiety, plus health problems, and wouldn't be comfortable even at a small wedding or reception. He also wouldn't feel comfortable having a ceremony with all of my family in attendance, but not his.