"Bi" should just be herself, and she should tell her husband first. But if her marriage is as strong and happy as she indicated, I'm pretty sure he already knows. I know I did.
- Jon in North Carolina
DEAR JON: Thank you for writing. The comments I received about that letter were passionate and informed:
DEAR ABBY: A support group that is either counselor- or peer-led, in-person or online, can be an important resource to help "Bi in the Deep South" recognize that others have also experienced what she is going through and she can learn from them.
- Licensed Counselor in Texas
DEAR ABBY: "Bi in the Deep South" has the right to be honest with herself and her family and not go through life hiding. You can be both "in a committed relationship" and "bisexual." They are not mutually exclusive.
- Bi in the Pacific Northwest
DEAR ABBY: There is real power in coming out, in voicing your authentic self. I speak from personal experience. I was silent for five years, and the day I started talking about the fact that I am bisexual, I felt as though a huge weight had been lifted off me.
- Robyn in Massachusetts
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