In fact, when our daughter told us her budget for a dress - $100 "max," she said with emphasis - her father was surprised.
"That's all?" he asked.
I immediately shot him a stinky eye.
I thought her budgeted amount was just right for a dress she's not likely to wear again. One of her best friends vetoed a dress because it costs about $300 (love her frugal friends!).
Yet many teenagers across the country will do what adults do all the time. They will spend more than they can afford. Students should reduce what they could spend for the prom and use the savings to help pay for books when they go to college in the fall.
For the second year, the spending on proms nationwide has increased, outpacing inflation - reaching an average of $1,139 per family, according to a survey by Visa Inc.
"Prom has devolved into a competition to crown the victor of high school society, but teens shouldn't be trying to keep up with the Kardashians," said Nat Sillin, Visa's head of U.S. financial education.
As far as who pays, parents are kicking in the majority of the funds. But this often results in teens not focusing on the cost because they aren't paying for it themselves. In looking over the survey, Sillin said he was concerned that many parents making less than $50,000 a year were spending more than the average, upward of $1,200.
Parents are always asking me how to teach their children good financial habits. The best way is to use teachable moments that come up in their lives. The prom is a perfect time to show your child how to budget sensibly.
So, have you had the talk?
Did you set specific dollar limits for all the expenses - dress or tux, shoes, hair, corsage (do the young men still do that?), limo, pictures and the after-party? I still don't understand why people are paying for another party after the party. (I know, I'm sounding old.)
To help with budgeting, Visa launched a free smartphone app - Plan'it Prom - that allows parents and teenagers to manage prom expenses. By the way, except for the starting page, Visa doesn't load the app with ads.
"Recognizing that prom spending now represents a major expense for American families with high school students, we wanted to create a fun tool that would help teens budget and save for prom and encourage a conversation about responsible spending between parents and teens," Sillin said.
To stay within a budget, prom spenders need to set limits. You'll find a suggested budget ceiling for 13 categories, including tips to cut costs. The recommended amount for a prom dress, for example, is $145.
The app comes with a "budget health meter" to let users know when they are overshooting their spending plan. If you find yourself creeping into the red, it's an indication you need to cut back in other areas. The app also has a calculator to show the true cost if an item is purchased on credit.
In addition to being available through the iTunes and Google Play stores, you can get it at ph.ly/Prom.
This is parents' chance to emphasize that a budget matters. So if your daughter is pining or whining for a $300 or $400 dress but you've budgeted $700 total for the prom, she's got to cut expenses somewhere.
I'm so pleased that my daughter has picked up my penny-pinching ways. She's got a good perspective on her prom. She sees it as a nice event to enjoy with her friends but not one that will define her existence.
She won't be crushed if her dress isn't to die for. I am so proud of her, I get tears of joy.