Steve & Mia: Why is it always a meal - and me?

Posted: November 15, 2013

Q: If I invite a man over to my place and cook dinner for him, why does he automatically assume it means I want to sleep with him? After this happened several times, I stopped doing it. I really enjoy cooking and sharing food ideas, but for some reason men I date leap to the wrong conclusions. Any solutions?

Steve: You're not adding granulated Viagra to the food, are you? I don't think it's your kitchen that's leading him to your bedroom. At some point in a new relationship, every man assumes the woman wants to bed him, because who wouldn't? The best way to defang these dining Don Juans is to make it clear when you invite them that there will be no dessert.

Mia: Yeah, just don't cook for them.

Q: How do I get my wife to give me more oral sex? She doesn't seem to want to do it any more.

Mia: Start by taking a shower. And maybe returning the favor. Do that well enough, and she'll repay you many times over.

Steve: People's tastes evolve over time, and that includes sex. Talk about what each of you likes and doesn't like, and find ways to compromise in areas where you disagree. You may find a middle ground that's even more exciting.


Steve is a fifty-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.

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