Steve: The most common problem for women in their middle years is decreased sexual desire, but menopause is a complex hormonal process, so you may be the rare case that goes the other way. Your doctor can help.
Q: Me and my wife need a third opinion really fast. I have a stepkid who lays around the house all damn day playing stupid video games. If he works, it's only part time, maybe 20 hours a week, at a fast-food chain. He makes minimum wage and spends it all on video games. The rest of the time, he's home eating everything and doing nothing.
My wife spoils him rotten. I'm tired of fighting with her about it, so I keep my trap shut. Yesterday, my wife tells me that her godson is down on his luck, too. He wants to come stay with us while he finds a job and gets himself together. I told her hell, no. This ain't no flop house.
She hasn't said much, but I can tell she's mad at me. She has a really big heart - always taking in stray animals - and now she wants to help her godson. We already got a problem that we can't fix. Why would we add on?
Mia: Stand your ground. You can't do much about your stepson, since he's your wife's child. Keep on raising a fuss about him moving out and you'll wind up divorced. But you can keep this other kid from making your home situation worse. If your wife insists on letting the godson move in, seek professional counseling immediately.
Steve: Major decisions like this require agreement by both partners. You rightly vetoed it. She needs to back off.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.