Anyway, he says the decision is mine.
Should I go for it?
Steve: I'm not sure you'll get a "love slave" out of this. You may get Chance the Gardener (from the movie "Being There," who likes to watch).
Be careful what you wish for, tell your husband, as it might turn out different than you think. Sexual dynamics can be tricky. I'd advise something else from the spice rack.
Mia: I'm with Steve on this one. Having sex with a man who's not your husband while your guy watches is just begging for trouble.
Don't do it, girl!
Q: After a long drought, me and this guy hooked up. It's not like me and him are strangers though. We've been seeing each other casually off and on for a year now.
Only problem is, he was only able to get but so far. I'm not a virgin. Nowhere close, so I'm not sure what that was about. We had fun otherwise, but I'm a little nervous about what he must be thinking. He's coming over again this weekend. Help!
Mia: Forget what he thinks. It's you I'm worried about. You could be experiencing a form of vaginismus, an involuntary tightening of the genital area. Anything can cause it, relationship or emotional problems. Even menopause. Get to your gynecologist ASAP. She'll probably suggest Kegel exercises and vaginal dilators.
Whatever you do, don't make this into a problem with a capital P. It's one of those things that can happen in life. Laugh it off.
Steve: He's (pardon the expression) coming again this weekend, so it couldn't have been that awful for him. Take Mia's advice on the physical - get a checkup, and talk to this guy who you've known a long time, and maybe you can both have a laugh.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.