Q: After many, many years of being together, my husband and I not only love each other, we are still in love with each other. We are openly affectionate with each other and enjoy being together. This often draws questions from my women friends on how we manage it. It's not hard, really. We are open and honest in every aspect of our lives. Especially our sex lives. We communicate everything and have reached a level of intimacy that allows us to continuously grow together, trying new things. This keeps our relationship exciting. When my friends ask me these questions and I answer them, they say, "No way! No one can be that honest in a relationship." I have come to the realization that I have something special and rare. My question is, should I continue to try to educate these women or just say I am lucky, I guess.
Steve: As the great Branch Rickey once said, "Luck is the residue of design." Communication, as you've discovered, is the key to a great relationship. Don't feel obligated to educate your friends, but I see no problem in honestly sharing your experiences.