Don't waste time with a guy who's insecure and judgmental.
Steve: I prefer the 1951 song "It Ain't the Meat (It's the Motion)" by the Swallows, although Southside Johnny's 1976 cover ain't bad.
Q: My girlfriend and I can't agree, and it may be the end of us. She had a fight with a woman 13 years ago, before we met. I know the woman - we grew up in the same neighborhood - and she's an ex of a good friend of mine. The things my girlfriend told me that happened were horrible. My girlfriend was antagonized for a year. I was hanging out in one of the two bars I frequent one Friday night recently, and my girlfriend's enemy was having a party there. I had no prior knowledge of the party and didn't think anything of it. Later, my girlfriend asked about my night and I told her all about it. To my surprise, she flipped out. She said I wasn't loyal because I should have left when I saw her enemy's party there. I didn't even speak to the woman! Now my girlfriend's broken up with me. I sympathize with my girlfriend, but I don't think it's fair that I have to end my night because her enemy is there. This fight happened 13 years ago. All her friends and family are siding with her. Should I carry the same grudge that my girlfriend carries? I told her that she just wanted to break up with me and this is a convenient excuse. Oh yeah, I owe $2,400 on an $11,000 engagement ring, too. I was planning on asking her to marry me for her birthday.
Steve: The technical term for your girlfriend is cray cray. Take the ring back to the store and get as much money back on it as you can. Then take a nice vacation to a place where there are lots of single women.
Mia: Steve's right. Girlfriend did you a favor by dumping you. Run! You can't do anything with a woman who's stuck on stupid like that.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.