Steve: How far do you take the vegan thing? The next time you're with her, let her know what the rules are. Then she can decide whether it's worth it.
Q: One of my best friends announced she was gay and leaving her husband. Not too long after she left, her husband started coming on to me. The sex was scorching, partly because I hadn't had it for long and it turns out neither had he. We do it every chance we can get. For the first time in my life, I'm having orgasms with a partner. My friend is OK with it. She's exploring her life as a lesbian. My problem is, he still loves her. Her belongings are still everywhere. I've gone over there and they are sitting at the table like an old married couple. I think about leaving but this is the best relationship I've ever had. Should I just try to get over my jealousy?
Steve: Yes. It's perfectly natural for them to remain friends. Would you rather they hate each other? That would make your relationship with them much worse. Focus on deepening your relationship with him, try not to be possessive and see where things go.
Mia: I couldn't do it. I don't care how mind-blowing the orgasms were, my ego wouldn't allow me to be a third wheel in my own relationship. My advice is not to settle. If you can have great sex with your friend's husband, you can have great sex with someone else.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.