Mia: Don't tell us. Tell him. Maybe he thinks you like it rough. Don't have sex with that sweaty pig until you get that straight.
Steve: For sex to work there has to be full communication between partners. You throw out the things that one partner doesn't like and keep the things that both partners enjoy. If you find nothing that you both enjoy, then you break up.
Q: Here's my dilemma. I'm a lesbian and keep finding myself in relationships with women who aren't sure that they're really lesbian. I've been out since I was 16. But for some reason I attract all of these married women who one minute say they're bisexual and the next, they're in love with their husbands and can't leave their kids. This has happened to me several times over the last few years. It's very frustrating.
Mia: Why stick around so long with a woman who's married? The minute you meet someone and she tells you she's in a relationship, that should be your signal to move on. Have you ever had any therapy?
Steve: Wait, you keep getting involved with partners who are in relationships and you wonder why it's going wrong? Easy solution: Only date single women.
Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.