January 31, 2016 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I lost my amazing mom suddenly to a heart attack six months ago. She was 58 and in perfect health, and we are all still dealing with the shock of it. I've gotten to a point where I can mostly function on a day-to-day basis, but I'm struggling with how to face my future milestones without her. I'm 33, not married yet (but dating the man I know I'll marry), no kids yet, no house yet. She was so invested in my life and in my happiness - how am I going to do these things without her?
July 27, 2013 |
Question: In the mid-'90s, when I was 22 and my brother 18, our family took a Caribbean cruise. It was fun, but not so much fun that I cared to do it again. Now that my parents are in their late 60s, my mom has gotten it in her mind that we should take another cruise as a family. They have even offered to pay. I am not interested in a family vacation. I am single and in my late 30s, and a family vacation smacks of desperation. Also, traveling anywhere with my parents is never a simple process (I suppose that can be said of a lot of people, though)
July 10, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: Is it stupid to not like the way my parents play with my 2-year-old? They live far away, and our families can only manage to travel once or twice a year. They bring something new for my daughter and insist that she play with it, even when she shows no interest. They will repeatedly try to get her to like their toy and take other things out of her hand to get her attention back. If she does something cute, they ask her to do it past the point of boredom.
June 11, 2013 |
Question: After a death in the family, my younger cousin (early 30s) decided to put her house on the market and move closer to family and friends. She was going to break up with her live-in boyfriend (whom she was largely supporting and who can barely keep a job), but then he proposed. She thought about it for a few weeks and decided to accept, even though family and friends tried to talk her out of it. I'm being asked to talk some sense into her, and as much as I wish I could, it seems pointless.
May 31, 2013 |
Question: I'm in my mid-20s, steady job, returned Peace Corps volunteer, avid traveler, active social life, ambitious, and I like to think, at least kind of attractive. Maybe I could lose a few, but whatever. I'm also really funny, and I'm not saying this to be arrogant, it's just always been a trait of mine, and I think it's starting to become detrimental. I can't get a date! I have no problem talking to men, including ones I find attractive, and I'm a pretty confident person, but I think my sense of humor makes me unsexy.
May 17, 2013 |
Question: My lovely, 23-year-old daughter is a romantic and wants to marry the young man she is dating. They have "officially" dated two years, but were friends for years before that. They did not attend college together, so are just recently back in the same town. My daughter lives alone, pays her bills, and is learning how to be a responsible adult, but she is still naive in many ways. Having just graduated, her boyfriend lives with his parents (who fully promote this relationship)
May 16, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I had a good friend in college, "Lucy"; we were inseparable, in each other's weddings, etc. Over the last two years we've had somewhat of a falling-out, and I've kept my distance from her for a number of reasons. Well, I just found out Lucy's mother killed Lucy's father and then tried to kill herself, and is now facing murder charges. How do I even respond? I knew her parents fairly well but I haven't spoken to her in months, and the last time we spoke it was cold and unfriendly.
May 4, 2013 |
Question: My husband and I are newlyweds. He had a long-term relationship with a woman who turned out to be married. When they started dating, she lied about it. He eventually found out but, by that point, had developed strong feelings for her and did not end their relationship. They have remained in constant contact over an 11-year period, with occasional weekends together (she lives in another state). She always stayed with the husband, claiming she was "staying for the children" - who, by the way, are adults!
April 25, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I've always considered myself a well-liked person, so I was shocked and hurt when I heard another mom from my son's soccer team describe me as "awful" (and the person she was talking to agreed). As soon as she realized I'd heard her, she started apologizing, but I was so upset I just grabbed my son and left. Part of me would love to use this experience to open a dialogue with her - "What exactly is so 'awful' about me?" - but I fear the answer would really hurt, and I'm not sure I can handle it. What would you do?
April 24, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: Can you recommend a surefire way to find out if a man is interested in you without embarrassing yourself too much? I believe men don't dally when they want to be with someone, but I've only known this guy a few months and we're both in a Ph.D. program that leaves little time for romance. I thought he was interested in another woman, so I stopped initiating contact and decided to mentally move on, but he responded by being more engaged and flirty than ever.