August 21, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 15-year-old girl, and I'm madly in love with my boyfriend. The only problem is, I can't tell anyone but my closest friends about him. I met him over the internet, and he's an amazing guy. I didn't think I'd ever fall in love with him, but I did. He lives in New York, and I'm planning on going up to see him as soon as I possibly can. I really, really want to tell my mom, but I don't want to lose him. I know if I say too much about him,...
August 3, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I'm an attractive 30-year-old woman just out of a five-year relationship. I am starting to date again, but I have a complication - I cannot have children. I am wondering when the right time would be to bring this up with the men I meet. After a few dates seems too soon; however, the men usually reveal their desire for a family during this time. What is the rule of thumb here? - Single in San Francisco DEAR SINGLE: The rule of thumb is: Honesty is the best policy. If someone tells you he wants a family, it would be dishonest not to tell him then that you won't be able to have children.
August 2, 2016
DEAR ABBY: Forty-five years ago, I had a mistress. My wife knew about her. Both of our spouses have now passed. I have found her address on the internet, and I'm debating if I should contact her. What do you think? - Unsure in Iowa DEAR UNSURE: Because you are both now unencumbered, I don't see any reason you shouldn't. Clearly, you have things in common and a lot of shared history. Some family moments should stay just that DEAR ABBY: We are well into school's summer vacation, filled with days by the pool, trips to the zoo, and plenty of time for kids to goof off around the house.
July 31, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I recently retired, but I haven't told anyone. I receive widow's benefits, so I'm comfortable financially. I like my privacy, and I'm afraid things will change if I tell people about my retirement. My father is dying of cancer. My best friend says if I were her sister, she'd be mad at me. My sister lives a mile away and I don't want her dropping in on me. If she knew, she'd include me in everything she does. I feel this is my life and I want to enjoy it alone for the most part.
July 21, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been together for eight years. When we first met, I was in the military, and she was a bartender. Needless to say, she made far more money than I did at the time. Six months into our relationship, she got pregnant and quit her job. For the next seven years, she raised our children and went to school while I did whatever I had to do - working two jobs - to make enough to pay the bills. I am now out of the military. I have been at a company for six years, and we are finally reaching a point where we don't worry about money as much.
July 17, 2016
DEAR ABBY: When I was 13 and 14, I sent nude pictures to guys I didn't know over Kik. I am now 15 and interested in a career in education. I have read about educators getting fired for sending pictures. Should I be worried that I will never have a career in education? Or ever get into a good college? - Questioning Teen DEAR QUESTIONING: Sending nude photos at any age, especially if someone is underage, is extremely dangerous to both the sender and recipient, and I hope you will never do it again.
June 21, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I live with my parents and am not fond of children. My father volunteers me to baby-sit my nieces while they are right in front of us and before I have a chance to discuss anything. If I stand up for myself and say no, my father lays a guilt trip on me and tells the kids that their aunt is "being mean. " I'm grateful that my parents took me in after I graduated from university, which has allowed me to work on a second degree. However, when I am volunteered to do something I don't enjoy -- like entertain the kids -- my father somehow always manages to leave the house.
June 8, 2016
DEAR ABBY: Mom is 61. She lost her husband (my dad) six months ago. They had been married for 37 years. He used to do almost everything for her. Now, her world has changed because she must do things for herself - like doing the dishes or paying the bills. When we talk, she constantly complains about tasks that have the simplest of solutions. If I offer advice, she gets defensive and says, "Fine! Tell me how I should live my life. " I have reached the conclusion that she doesn't want advice, but she continues to complain and be upset.
June 3, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing "Russell" for about a year. In March he told me he had to move in with his grandmother because "he was the only bachelor in the family who could take care of her. " Stupidly, I believed him. Not long after that, I found out he had a pregnant girlfriend. I didn't let on that I knew, and we didn't see each other for about three months because he was "busy getting promoted at work. " Now I have started seeing him again, and I just can't seem to let it go. The problem is I still haven't told Russell I know about the girlfriend and the baby.
May 20, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My wife of 15 years has recently begun spending a lot of time with a group of women who socialize away from their husbands. They like to meet without their husbands and party at pickup nightclubs and swingers' bars. When I asked her about it, her response was, "It's just us girls dancing with each other and having a good time. We dance with each other at the table we're at. We never dance with any of the men who ask us. " When I asked why they go to these kinds of places, she said the atmosphere and music are better there.