June 21, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I live with my parents and am not fond of children. My father volunteers me to baby-sit my nieces while they are right in front of us and before I have a chance to discuss anything. If I stand up for myself and say no, my father lays a guilt trip on me and tells the kids that their aunt is "being mean. " I'm grateful that my parents took me in after I graduated from university, which has allowed me to work on a second degree. However, when I am volunteered to do something I don't enjoy -- like entertain the kids -- my father somehow always manages to leave the house.
June 8, 2016
DEAR ABBY: Mom is 61. She lost her husband (my dad) six months ago. They had been married for 37 years. He used to do almost everything for her. Now, her world has changed because she must do things for herself - like doing the dishes or paying the bills. When we talk, she constantly complains about tasks that have the simplest of solutions. If I offer advice, she gets defensive and says, "Fine! Tell me how I should live my life. " I have reached the conclusion that she doesn't want advice, but she continues to complain and be upset.
June 3, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing "Russell" for about a year. In March he told me he had to move in with his grandmother because "he was the only bachelor in the family who could take care of her. " Stupidly, I believed him. Not long after that, I found out he had a pregnant girlfriend. I didn't let on that I knew, and we didn't see each other for about three months because he was "busy getting promoted at work. " Now I have started seeing him again, and I just can't seem to let it go. The problem is I still haven't told Russell I know about the girlfriend and the baby.
May 20, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My wife of 15 years has recently begun spending a lot of time with a group of women who socialize away from their husbands. They like to meet without their husbands and party at pickup nightclubs and swingers' bars. When I asked her about it, her response was, "It's just us girls dancing with each other and having a good time. We dance with each other at the table we're at. We never dance with any of the men who ask us. " When I asked why they go to these kinds of places, she said the atmosphere and music are better there.
May 18, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for eight years, but married only a few months. It took him a long time to finally marry me, and it ended up that I was the one to propose. I am 30, and he's 39. I know he loves me. I have always expressed that I want children, and he did, too. I have been off birth control and keeping track of my cycle, but now he doesn't want to make love. When I try to get him in the mood, he always finds an excuse. I told him he has had plenty of time to let me know whether he didn't want children.
May 17, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband has suggested and arranged for a series of spray-tan sessions for my 12-year-old daughter. I feel that telling my preteen girl that she should spray tan is sending her the wrong message, and we should instead be teaching her that she's beautiful just the way she is. How do you feel about this? Should I allow my 12-year-old daughter to tan? - Tan or Not in Texas DEAR TAN OR NOT: NO! Your ex-husband may mean well, but unless a product is 100 percent safe, I cannot endorse using it on a minor child.
April 22, 2016
DEAR ABBY: When my friend became pregnant, her boyfriend didn't stick around to be in the baby's life. The three of us had gone to school together, and they started dating years later. When she asked me to be the child's godmother, I said yes. The baby is 5 months old now. While I was out at a bar recently, I ran into the boyfriend. My friend is now mad at me because I said hello to him. She thinks I should have ignored him, given him a dirty look, or had words with him in public, but that's not me. She's now saying she never wants to talk to me or see me again.
April 14, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I am a junior in high school. Last year, a guy I have known for two years began showing a sexual interest in me. I rejected his advances. Last week, he began expressing his interest again, letting me know he wanted to have sex. He invited me to study - only study - but said we "might" make out. I was a virgin and had never even kissed anyone before. I had just gotten out of a relationship that didn't end very well, so I liked the attention. I decided I was fine with just kissing, but as soon as I got in his truck, he started to feel me up. He took me to a semi-isolated area, and we ended up having sex. It wasn't fun or pleasurable.
April 12, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend, "Ed," who dated a woman who put him down regularly. He was often depressed, and we would discuss what was wrong. Eventually I told him I didn't think she was good for him and he should end it. Instead, he became reluctant to tell me if anything was wrong. When they got engaged, everyone was shocked. Ed explained it by saying they had been dating for several years so an engagement seemed "logical. " Although many of his friends thought he was making a mistake, we offered our congratulations and support.
April 5, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating an alcoholic for three years. He recently entered a treatment program because after his last binge he tried to kill himself. He seems to be committed to his program and staying sober. He has requested that I stay sober with him for at least a year. While I'm fully committed to our relationship and support him, I don't feel that it's fair that I should have to completely forgo drinking because he has a problem. I'm not looking to go out and party every night - those days are over for me - but I'd like to enjoy an occasional beer with a friend or a glass of wine with my mom. When I approached him about my doing so, he became upset.