December 5, 2012
DEAR ABBY: When I was an adolescent, my father molested me. It took me 20 years to finally confide this secret to my mother. Afterward it felt as if a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. That feeling lasted about two minutes. That's how long it took for her to get on the phone and spread the news to everyone she could think of. This was two years ago and, after repeatedly asking her to stop, she continues to tell. Two days ago, I caught her spilling the beans to an acquaintance she hadn't spoken to in more than a decade.
August 15, 2012
DEAR ABBY My grandfather recently went to jail for having child pornography on his laptop. The lawyers and everyone else say he molested me and my sister. I almost had to testify. I'm only 13 and have talked with people, but they don't get it. I don't want to talk to a therapist or anything, but my mom and aunt think I should. Should I? I learned about this two years ago, but I still feel sad. I feel uncomfortable talking about it with anyone but my friends. I write sad poetry to express my feelings and it helps.
August 14, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have thrown a barbecue for our friends and their families every summer since we married. Our problem is one of our good friends is now the mother of an insufferable 3-year-old boy, "Fenton. " Last year, he slammed our stereo to the ground, tossed another child and terrorized a gentle dog. He barged in on a nursing mother and refused to leave and tore our baby gate off its hinges. The mom is busy with a new baby and deals with the situation by making idle threats.
October 7, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a 42-year-old woman who has wanted to write to you for years. I'll soon celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary. I am very unhappily married. I married "Bill" for all the wrong reasons. I never truly loved him the way a woman should love a man but remained in the marriage because I am "supposed to. " He's a wonderful husband and father and has a job that pays well. I work part time. Bill and I get along just fine. He is easy to talk to, and we're very good friends. I don't want to lose that.
July 10, 2012 |
DEAR ABBY: I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder many years ago. I started a combined therapy about a year ago — individual and a dialectical behavioral therapy group. Everything has been going great, and I have learned a lot about myself. The problem is, I have become very attracted to my therapist and, as a result, I feel it is interfering with my treatment. Lately, my only interest in going to group or therapy is to see him and be in his presence. I also find myself canceling group if I know he won't be there.
September 16, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. We finally moved in together a year ago. Things have been going pretty well, with the exception of an unusual habit of his that has become more evident since living together. He spends anywhere from 45 minutes to two hours in the bathroom every day. A couple of times he has even fallen asleep in there. He takes his computer in the bathroom because he claims he gets a lot of work done. Some days I barely get to see him because he works late and then spends the rest of the day you-know-where.
September 2, 2012
DEAR ABBY: Our German shepherd, Leah, was playing with a hard rubber ball that was about the size of a tennis ball. Somehow, the ball slid down her throat. I tried to dislodge it by grabbing and pulling it out. When that didn't work, I tried the Heimlich maneuver. That didn't work either. By the time we got Leah to the veterinarian, she was dead. Abby, please tell your readers to never let their dog play with any object that fits into its mouth. If it fits, it can lodge in the throat.
September 12, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I'm really bad when it comes to speaking. I barely squeak out the few words I can. I am shy, so when I'm with people, even my two friends, I feel like I come across as rude. I never have the right things to say. When I'm with my family, I don't have this problem. In public, it seems like everyone else is so more interesting. Is there anything that can be done? I heard you had a booklet about being more social. How can I get one? - Victoria in South Carolina DEAR VICTORIA: Making conversation may seem hard because it is a SKILL that you haven't yet mastered.
September 19, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My daughter "Anissa" is 3 and has an older cousin "Billy" on my fiancé's side who is 5. Billy has been caught on several occasions showing his "manhood" to little girls, and we recently found out he took Anissa into a pop-up tent and showed her as well. This was not on my watch, because I don't leave them alone together. After I learned about the incident, I was told that Billy had done this with another cousin and told her it was a "secret. " Billy was spoken to at great length and reprimanded after the first few times, but he continues to do this.
August 16, 2012
DEAR ABBY: Wouldn't it make sense if grade school teachers set aside time - weekly or monthly - to go over some very generic information that kids need to learn? I'm talking about things like how important it is to have pets neutered, how to manage money, what the average dad earns and what it costs to run a household and support a family. It might help kids to grow up understanding that money isn't free and get them past the "gimmes. " There are so many topics that ought to be introduced to youngsters at an early age - how to groom themselves properly, be exposed to a variety of music genres, teach them how grandparents can use help even from small children.