March 22, 2011
DEAR ABBY: My job requires me to travel out of town several nights a week, leaving my wife home alone. She recently invited a mutual (male) friend out for dinner during my absence. He's the other half of a couple we socialize with frequently. (His wife was also out of town.) I told her I was uncomfortable with it. I don't think married men and women should go out alone with members of the opposite sex. She maintains that it wasn't a "date," that she was just having a meal with a friend.
July 31, 2010
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter gave birth to an adorable little boy three years ago. We love "Connor" dearly, but my husband is obsessed with him. He wants our grandson at our house every weekend from the time we are done working on Friday until Sunday evening or Monday morning. My husband wants to take Connor everywhere we go. Abby, I love my grandson, but after raising our own children, I'd now like to focus on our lives and maybe have time for myself. If I say anything, my husband becomes furious and tells me I don't love our grandson.
August 9, 2012 |
DEAR ABBY: I think what "End of My Rope" may have failed to say is that she's tired of sacrificing her own life to care for her ill-tempered, terminally ill husband. Harsh as this may seem, it's a fact. I have been caring for my father for eight years. He's suffering from severe dementia and is now an invalid. I, too, provide him round-the-clock care. My suggestion to "End" would be to talk to a respite facility about giving her a "vacation" from her husband. I do this with my father twice a year.
July 12, 2012 |
DEAR ABBY: "Wants to Do the Right Thing" asked about using email to thank those who donated to a fund-raiser for her son, who has bone cancer. What's wrong with that? I have been there. One of my twin boys was diagnosed with cancer at age 2. I was grateful for all the help my family and friends gave me, but I did not always have the time or energy to devote to writing thank-you cards. You really have to have experienced this kind of long-term stress and trauma to understand.
July 11, 2012 |
DEAR ABBY: I have been in an on-again/off-again relationship with a man for 16 years — more on than off. We have two boys together. He recently moved back in, and things are going well. We're in our 30s, and I'm ready to be more than girlfriend and boyfriend. I'd like to ask this special man in my life to marry me, but I'm not sure if a woman should ever propose marriage to a man. Should I go ahead and do it, or just be patient? — Longing for More in Texas DEAR LONGING FOR MORE: By all means, ask him to formalize your relationship.
February 25, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My two adult granddaughters have rejected me. Their father gave me this explanation: "They are uncomfortable with the way you rub their shoulders and necks. " These girls and both parents have misinterpreted my innocent expressions of affection, which haven't changed since the girls were little. The only change is in their perception of my actions. I asked twice to meet with these family members to discuss their concerns. It has been three months; no meeting time has been offered.
July 20, 2012 |
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are going to Italy next year and taking our two sons, 8 and 12. We have saved for this trip for years. When my sister-in-law heard about it, she invited herself along, with her husband and two children who are my sons' ages. Although I love all of them, I don't want to spend my vacation of a lifetime with her. She often pawns her children off on others while she does her own thing. How do I approach this without hurting feelings? I'd rather not go on the trip than go with her. Help!
August 24, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I'm writing for advice on friendship. There is a person who insists we are "best friends. " She calls every day to gossip and get into people's business, including mine. We are grown women, and I find this childish. I am a loner. I don't like too many people in my space, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. I just want her to get a life. I'm married; she's single. We have nothing in common, in my opinion, and she tries to keep up with my every move. If I don't answer the phone at home, she calls me at work.
October 24, 2011
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my friend of more than 30 years was being married for the first time. Three days before the ceremony, "Caryn's" wedding planner emailed all the guests, saying the wedding was canceled. No explanation was given, and we were asked to "respect the bride's privacy" and refrain from contacting her. I waited a week, then sent Caryn a note saying I was thinking about her. I had given her two shower gifts and a wedding present a month in advance. Caryn has not returned the gifts.
August 29, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I am a confused transwoman. I have been in a committed relationship for years with a woman who knew me before "the change. " I successfully transitioned two years ago and live and work as a woman. My confidence and emotional depth have grown. When I go to clubs and bars with other girlfriends, I attract male attention. (I pass well.) The problem is, my attraction to women is fading and men are now more appealing. My pulse races at the idea of spending time with men, while my current relationship now feels like we're housemates or family members.