August 17, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I'm a male who has graduated from high school and is about to start college in another state. I'm ready for a new challenge. The only thing holding me back is a romantic attraction I have toward one of my high school teachers. He and I are best friends, but I love him more than as a friend. I have bought him many meals and gifts since he taught me, and I have found every opportunity available to be with him. I'm not sure if he's aware of my feelings, although I wonder whether I unconsciously make myself obvious.
September 18, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I thought "Arlene" was a close friend until I heard that she and another "friend" had arranged a trip to the theater. Several other women were also invited, but I wasn't. I should point out that when Arlene and I attended shows in the past, I was always the one buying the tickets. I paid for her golf dues last October because she was a little short, and she still owes me about $1,000. I provided her transportation to the golf club for the last four years because she doesn't have a car. Arlene and I have shared many shopping trips together, and I have always picked up the tab for lunch.
August 30, 2011
DEAR ABBY: "Insulted in Ohio" was offended because she's being asked at bridal and baby showers to address a blank envelope so the honoree can send her a thank-you note. Good heavens, lady, calm down. At a shower, you are celebrating a milestone event in a young woman's life. Your gift will help her during the next phase of her life. These joyous events can be stressful and require a lot of preparation. I'm sure the hostess's intent in asking guests to perform this minor task is to ease the honoree's responsibilities.
October 5, 2012
DEAR ABBY: Your column has been a fixture in my life. Thank you for the smiles and the tears. My dilemma: I received yet another invitation to someone's home for a "product party. " In the past year, I have been considered a prospective buyer of cookware, candles, makeup, toys and vitamins. While I have at times used all these products, the invitations to sales parties that come from friends, and sometimes friends of friends, irritate me. When I phone to decline, the hostess invariably says, "Oh, you don't have to buy anything.
November 11, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My daughter, "Renee," is 25 and is an intelligent and independent woman with a good job. She has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, "Bryan," for 6 1/2 years. They have been living together for the past two years. Bryan is nice and has a decent job, and I like him. However, there is virtually no conversation between them about what their future together holds. Renee would like to get engaged, but she refuses to bring anything up to Bryan for fear that he will feel "pushed.
August 30, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I am 20 years younger than my husband. I am also attractive and sexually available to him. We have a great relationship except for one thing. I can't trust him! I have caught him emailing women he met at work, inviting our neighbor to go with him on a motorcycle ride and heard many stories about him asking women on dates. But the worst was when I found out he was calling a woman every day and going to her house when I was at work. When I confronted him, he said that nothing sexual had happened, but he moved out for a month.
August 23, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I started dating my boyfriend a month ago. On our third date he informed me that he was previously married. It lasted two years and he has been divorced for almost a year. It didn't bother me, so I let it go. He introduced me to his two roommates - one of them is female. After spending a day with them, I noticed he had an odd relationship with her. When I asked him about it later, he said she's his ex-wife. They live together and share basically everything, including groceries and a laptop.
October 22, 2012
DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. Now, five years later, I can't stand her. She's rude, judgmental and gossips about everyone. She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband's favorite recipes. After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed or omitted certain ingredients in every single one. When I asked about it, she told me she wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.
November 8, 2012
DEAR ABBY : As Veterans Day approaches, may I share a few guidelines that can be helpful when interacting with my fellow veterans or service members? 1. It is never OK to ask a veteran if he or she has killed someone or to joke about it. 2. When you thank us for our service or pay for our meal, it is really appreciated. 3. Please don't tell us that wars are a waste of dollars or lives or were fought for oil. 4. Many of us now have PTSD. If you see us acting anxious or moving away from crowds, turning our backs to the wall or fidgeting, simple kindness or a little distraction will be appreciated.
August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.