August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.
August 17, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I'm a male who has graduated from high school and is about to start college in another state. I'm ready for a new challenge. The only thing holding me back is a romantic attraction I have toward one of my high school teachers. He and I are best friends, but I love him more than as a friend. I have bought him many meals and gifts since he taught me, and I have found every opportunity available to be with him. I'm not sure if he's aware of my feelings, although I wonder whether I unconsciously make myself obvious.
September 18, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I thought "Arlene" was a close friend until I heard that she and another "friend" had arranged a trip to the theater. Several other women were also invited, but I wasn't. I should point out that when Arlene and I attended shows in the past, I was always the one buying the tickets. I paid for her golf dues last October because she was a little short, and she still owes me about $1,000. I provided her transportation to the golf club for the last four years because she doesn't have a car. Arlene and I have shared many shopping trips together, and I have always picked up the tab for lunch.
August 30, 2011
DEAR ABBY: "Insulted in Ohio" was offended because she's being asked at bridal and baby showers to address a blank envelope so the honoree can send her a thank-you note. Good heavens, lady, calm down. At a shower, you are celebrating a milestone event in a young woman's life. Your gift will help her during the next phase of her life. These joyous events can be stressful and require a lot of preparation. I'm sure the hostess's intent in asking guests to perform this minor task is to ease the honoree's responsibilities.
August 6, 2011
DEAR ABBY: My fiancee, "Vanessa," and I have been engaged almost a year. We're to be married in three months. When I popped the question, I took her to one of her favorite spots in the Smokey Mountains. When I proposed, she was overcome with emotion - but not the kind I would have thought. She said yes, but she wasn't at all happy about being surprised. She doesn't like surprises. At the time, I was sure she had an inkling about my intentions. We had discussed becoming engaged several times.
September 28, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 35 years. We have one daughter. My husband has this "thing" about grabbing other women's behinds. He hugs them and then goes in for a grab. It bothers me so much. It hurts my feelings, and I have told him so. But he still does it. Men have told me they don't want him touching their wives this way. Others have said it's disrespectful to me. He says he will try to stop doing it. Try? That doesn't set well with me. What do you think about this?
October 1, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My sister and I take turns (a few days at a time) caring for our 91-year-old mother. I went to her place for July Fourth, and before returning home, I took flowers to the family cemetery, which is close to Mom's house. It's something I do every year. I took wreaths I had made for each of my grandparents, an uncle, my precious son (who died at 5) and my dear sister who was recently laid to rest. Each wreath was unique - I had carefully chosen favorite flowers. Even though the wreaths were artificial, they were pretty, and I felt proud to display them on the graves of my loved ones.
October 22, 2012
DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. Now, five years later, I can't stand her. She's rude, judgmental and gossips about everyone. She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband's favorite recipes. After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed or omitted certain ingredients in every single one. When I asked about it, she told me she wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.
October 5, 2012
DEAR ABBY: Your column has been a fixture in my life. Thank you for the smiles and the tears. My dilemma: I received yet another invitation to someone's home for a "product party. " In the past year, I have been considered a prospective buyer of cookware, candles, makeup, toys and vitamins. While I have at times used all these products, the invitations to sales parties that come from friends, and sometimes friends of friends, irritate me. When I phone to decline, the hostess invariably says, "Oh, you don't have to buy anything.
October 3, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a divorced woman for four years, and we are now engaged to be married. She said in the beginning of our relationship that she had very little sexual experience because her former husband "had problems. " She then decided after the divorce that she would find out what she was missing. She hasn't discussed this in detail, but once in a while she lets out little snippets of information that lead me to believe she was active. Do I have a right, now that we're engaged, to know how many partners she had since the divorce?