February 20, 2013
DEAR ABBY: While I always enjoy your column, I thought your advice to "Wants My Space," whose son "Dustin" moved away five years ago and expects her to keep his room as he left it, was off the mark. I would have told Dustin what I have told both of my daughters several times: It is not "your" room - I merely let you use it. Not only is "Wants" not obligated to use her home as a storage facility, she's doing her son a disservice by doing it under these circumstances. At 24, he needs to learn that if he wants a service, it's his obligation to procure it. There are plenty of businesses that can fulfill his needs at a reasonable price.
January 11, 2013
DEAR ABBY: This is in response to "Had It in Hartford," who has been unhappily married to her husband for 20 years. She said she married him for all the wrong reasons and "has never loved him the way a woman should love a man. " After I had been married for seven years, I went to my pastor concerned that the grass on the other side was looking greener than mine. As we spoke, I began to realize the extent of the investment I had put into my marriage and that I didn't want to start over again on a new one. Love isn't just a feeling, but a choice and a commitment.
November 30, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I'm engaged to someone I love very much. I am 36, and he is 44. We get along great, but he's in a rush to get married. It will be my first and his second. We got engaged three months ago, and he wants the wedding to be in February. My other problem is that he is always pawing at me. He always needs to be touching me or calling me his "beautiful angel. " It's good to hear that once in a while, but not five times a day. I love being with him, but sometimes I need my own space.
July 31, 2010
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter gave birth to an adorable little boy three years ago. We love "Connor" dearly, but my husband is obsessed with him. He wants our grandson at our house every weekend from the time we are done working on Friday until Sunday evening or Monday morning. My husband wants to take Connor everywhere we go. Abby, I love my grandson, but after raising our own children, I'd now like to focus on our lives and maybe have time for myself. If I say anything, my husband becomes furious and tells me I don't love our grandson.
August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.
August 17, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I'm a male who has graduated from high school and is about to start college in another state. I'm ready for a new challenge. The only thing holding me back is a romantic attraction I have toward one of my high school teachers. He and I are best friends, but I love him more than as a friend. I have bought him many meals and gifts since he taught me, and I have found every opportunity available to be with him. I'm not sure if he's aware of my feelings, although I wonder whether I unconsciously make myself obvious.
September 18, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I thought "Arlene" was a close friend until I heard that she and another "friend" had arranged a trip to the theater. Several other women were also invited, but I wasn't. I should point out that when Arlene and I attended shows in the past, I was always the one buying the tickets. I paid for her golf dues last October because she was a little short, and she still owes me about $1,000. I provided her transportation to the golf club for the last four years because she doesn't have a car. Arlene and I have shared many shopping trips together, and I have always picked up the tab for lunch.
August 30, 2011
DEAR ABBY: "Insulted in Ohio" was offended because she's being asked at bridal and baby showers to address a blank envelope so the honoree can send her a thank-you note. Good heavens, lady, calm down. At a shower, you are celebrating a milestone event in a young woman's life. Your gift will help her during the next phase of her life. These joyous events can be stressful and require a lot of preparation. I'm sure the hostess's intent in asking guests to perform this minor task is to ease the honoree's responsibilities.
September 28, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 35 years. We have one daughter. My husband has this "thing" about grabbing other women's behinds. He hugs them and then goes in for a grab. It bothers me so much. It hurts my feelings, and I have told him so. But he still does it. Men have told me they don't want him touching their wives this way. Others have said it's disrespectful to me. He says he will try to stop doing it. Try? That doesn't set well with me. What do you think about this?
October 1, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My sister and I take turns (a few days at a time) caring for our 91-year-old mother. I went to her place for July Fourth, and before returning home, I took flowers to the family cemetery, which is close to Mom's house. It's something I do every year. I took wreaths I had made for each of my grandparents, an uncle, my precious son (who died at 5) and my dear sister who was recently laid to rest. Each wreath was unique - I had carefully chosen favorite flowers. Even though the wreaths were artificial, they were pretty, and I felt proud to display them on the graves of my loved ones.