October 1, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My sister and I take turns (a few days at a time) caring for our 91-year-old mother. I went to her place for July Fourth, and before returning home, I took flowers to the family cemetery, which is close to Mom's house. It's something I do every year. I took wreaths I had made for each of my grandparents, an uncle, my precious son (who died at 5) and my dear sister who was recently laid to rest. Each wreath was unique - I had carefully chosen favorite flowers. Even though the wreaths were artificial, they were pretty, and I felt proud to display them on the graves of my loved ones.
February 20, 2013
DEAR ABBY: While I always enjoy your column, I thought your advice to "Wants My Space," whose son "Dustin" moved away five years ago and expects her to keep his room as he left it, was off the mark. I would have told Dustin what I have told both of my daughters several times: It is not "your" room - I merely let you use it. Not only is "Wants" not obligated to use her home as a storage facility, she's doing her son a disservice by doing it under these circumstances. At 24, he needs to learn that if he wants a service, it's his obligation to procure it. There are plenty of businesses that can fulfill his needs at a reasonable price.
July 31, 2010
DEAR ABBY: Our daughter gave birth to an adorable little boy three years ago. We love "Connor" dearly, but my husband is obsessed with him. He wants our grandson at our house every weekend from the time we are done working on Friday until Sunday evening or Monday morning. My husband wants to take Connor everywhere we go. Abby, I love my grandson, but after raising our own children, I'd now like to focus on our lives and maybe have time for myself. If I say anything, my husband becomes furious and tells me I don't love our grandson.
February 7, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about a year. He was a virgin when we met. Three months into the relationship, we had sex. I am 18, and he is 21. We used to have sex often, but now he is completely uninterested in anything sexual. I feel like he isn't attracted to me anymore, although I haven't changed much since we started dating. Other than sex, we have a great relationship. We haven't had a single fight, but it hurts my feelings that he doesn't want to have sex with me anymore.
February 21, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Doug," and I have been in a long-distance relationship for a year, but we were friends for a couple of years before that. I had never had a serious relationship before and lacked experience. Doug has not only been in two other long-term relationships, but has had sex with more than 15 women. One of them is an amateur porn actress. I knew about this, but it didn't bother me until recently. Doug had a party, and while he was drunk he told one of his buddies - in front of me - that he should watch a certain porn film starring his ex-girlfriend.
March 4, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am a 14-year-old female from the West Coast. I am home-schooled and don't have many friends because I score high in tests, meaning I retain more information than the average person. On the rare occasion that I mingle with children my own age, they call me unpleasant names, play pranks on me and otherwise torture me. I hate it. I can't help that I am smart, and I refuse to degrade myself by dumbing down my actions and speech because they can't handle their insecurities.
October 16, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I have been married eight months. My wife has an occasional habit that makes me wonder whether we got married too young. (She's 23, I'm 27, and we're both in graduate school.) She likes to go out with a group of her friends from high school or with her sister, get drunk and stay the night. I'm not worried about her cheating on me. I try not to be controlling and say she "can't" go out. But it bothers me. If I talk about it, she gets angry and says she doesn't get to see her friends very often.
August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.
November 8, 2012
DEAR ABBY : As Veterans Day approaches, may I share a few guidelines that can be helpful when interacting with my fellow veterans or service members? 1. It is never OK to ask a veteran if he or she has killed someone or to joke about it. 2. When you thank us for our service or pay for our meal, it is really appreciated. 3. Please don't tell us that wars are a waste of dollars or lives or were fought for oil. 4. Many of us now have PTSD. If you see us acting anxious or moving away from crowds, turning our backs to the wall or fidgeting, simple kindness or a little distraction will be appreciated.
October 24, 2011
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my friend of more than 30 years was being married for the first time. Three days before the ceremony, "Caryn's" wedding planner emailed all the guests, saying the wedding was canceled. No explanation was given, and we were asked to "respect the bride's privacy" and refrain from contacting her. I waited a week, then sent Caryn a note saying I was thinking about her. I had given her two shower gifts and a wedding present a month in advance. Caryn has not returned the gifts.