August 6, 2011
DEAR ABBY: My fiancee, "Vanessa," and I have been engaged almost a year. We're to be married in three months. When I popped the question, I took her to one of her favorite spots in the Smokey Mountains. When I proposed, she was overcome with emotion - but not the kind I would have thought. She said yes, but she wasn't at all happy about being surprised. She doesn't like surprises. At the time, I was sure she had an inkling about my intentions. We had discussed becoming engaged several times.
August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.
August 17, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I'm a male who has graduated from high school and is about to start college in another state. I'm ready for a new challenge. The only thing holding me back is a romantic attraction I have toward one of my high school teachers. He and I are best friends, but I love him more than as a friend. I have bought him many meals and gifts since he taught me, and I have found every opportunity available to be with him. I'm not sure if he's aware of my feelings, although I wonder whether I unconsciously make myself obvious.
October 22, 2012
DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. Now, five years later, I can't stand her. She's rude, judgmental and gossips about everyone. She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband's favorite recipes. After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed or omitted certain ingredients in every single one. When I asked about it, she told me she wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.
August 30, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I am 20 years younger than my husband. I am also attractive and sexually available to him. We have a great relationship except for one thing. I can't trust him! I have caught him emailing women he met at work, inviting our neighbor to go with him on a motorcycle ride and heard many stories about him asking women on dates. But the worst was when I found out he was calling a woman every day and going to her house when I was at work. When I confronted him, he said that nothing sexual had happened, but he moved out for a month.
August 23, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I started dating my boyfriend a month ago. On our third date he informed me that he was previously married. It lasted two years and he has been divorced for almost a year. It didn't bother me, so I let it go. He introduced me to his two roommates - one of them is female. After spending a day with them, I noticed he had an odd relationship with her. When I asked him about it later, he said she's his ex-wife. They live together and share basically everything, including groceries and a laptop.
September 28, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 35 years. We have one daughter. My husband has this "thing" about grabbing other women's behinds. He hugs them and then goes in for a grab. It bothers me so much. It hurts my feelings, and I have told him so. But he still does it. Men have told me they don't want him touching their wives this way. Others have said it's disrespectful to me. He says he will try to stop doing it. Try? That doesn't set well with me. What do you think about this?
October 3, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a divorced woman for four years, and we are now engaged to be married. She said in the beginning of our relationship that she had very little sexual experience because her former husband "had problems. " She then decided after the divorce that she would find out what she was missing. She hasn't discussed this in detail, but once in a while she lets out little snippets of information that lead me to believe she was active. Do I have a right, now that we're engaged, to know how many partners she had since the divorce?
November 8, 2012
DEAR ABBY : As Veterans Day approaches, may I share a few guidelines that can be helpful when interacting with my fellow veterans or service members? 1. It is never OK to ask a veteran if he or she has killed someone or to joke about it. 2. When you thank us for our service or pay for our meal, it is really appreciated. 3. Please don't tell us that wars are a waste of dollars or lives or were fought for oil. 4. Many of us now have PTSD. If you see us acting anxious or moving away from crowds, turning our backs to the wall or fidgeting, simple kindness or a little distraction will be appreciated.
October 24, 2011
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my friend of more than 30 years was being married for the first time. Three days before the ceremony, "Caryn's" wedding planner emailed all the guests, saying the wedding was canceled. No explanation was given, and we were asked to "respect the bride's privacy" and refrain from contacting her. I waited a week, then sent Caryn a note saying I was thinking about her. I had given her two shower gifts and a wedding present a month in advance. Caryn has not returned the gifts.