February 20, 2013
DEAR ABBY: While I always enjoy your column, I thought your advice to "Wants My Space," whose son "Dustin" moved away five years ago and expects her to keep his room as he left it, was off the mark. I would have told Dustin what I have told both of my daughters several times: It is not "your" room - I merely let you use it. Not only is "Wants" not obligated to use her home as a storage facility, she's doing her son a disservice by doing it under these circumstances. At 24, he needs to learn that if he wants a service, it's his obligation to procure it. There are plenty of businesses that can fulfill his needs at a reasonable price.
February 21, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Doug," and I have been in a long-distance relationship for a year, but we were friends for a couple of years before that. I had never had a serious relationship before and lacked experience. Doug has not only been in two other long-term relationships, but has had sex with more than 15 women. One of them is an amateur porn actress. I knew about this, but it didn't bother me until recently. Doug had a party, and while he was drunk he told one of his buddies - in front of me - that he should watch a certain porn film starring his ex-girlfriend.
August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.
October 22, 2012
DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. Now, five years later, I can't stand her. She's rude, judgmental and gossips about everyone. She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband's favorite recipes. After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed or omitted certain ingredients in every single one. When I asked about it, she told me she wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.
November 8, 2012
DEAR ABBY : As Veterans Day approaches, may I share a few guidelines that can be helpful when interacting with my fellow veterans or service members? 1. It is never OK to ask a veteran if he or she has killed someone or to joke about it. 2. When you thank us for our service or pay for our meal, it is really appreciated. 3. Please don't tell us that wars are a waste of dollars or lives or were fought for oil. 4. Many of us now have PTSD. If you see us acting anxious or moving away from crowds, turning our backs to the wall or fidgeting, simple kindness or a little distraction will be appreciated.
September 28, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 35 years. We have one daughter. My husband has this "thing" about grabbing other women's behinds. He hugs them and then goes in for a grab. It bothers me so much. It hurts my feelings, and I have told him so. But he still does it. Men have told me they don't want him touching their wives this way. Others have said it's disrespectful to me. He says he will try to stop doing it. Try? That doesn't set well with me. What do you think about this?
October 24, 2011
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my friend of more than 30 years was being married for the first time. Three days before the ceremony, "Caryn's" wedding planner emailed all the guests, saying the wedding was canceled. No explanation was given, and we were asked to "respect the bride's privacy" and refrain from contacting her. I waited a week, then sent Caryn a note saying I was thinking about her. I had given her two shower gifts and a wedding present a month in advance. Caryn has not returned the gifts.
October 3, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a divorced woman for four years, and we are now engaged to be married. She said in the beginning of our relationship that she had very little sexual experience because her former husband "had problems. " She then decided after the divorce that she would find out what she was missing. She hasn't discussed this in detail, but once in a while she lets out little snippets of information that lead me to believe she was active. Do I have a right, now that we're engaged, to know how many partners she had since the divorce?
October 5, 2012
DEAR ABBY: Your column has been a fixture in my life. Thank you for the smiles and the tears. My dilemma: I received yet another invitation to someone's home for a "product party. " In the past year, I have been considered a prospective buyer of cookware, candles, makeup, toys and vitamins. While I have at times used all these products, the invitations to sales parties that come from friends, and sometimes friends of friends, irritate me. When I phone to decline, the hostess invariably says, "Oh, you don't have to buy anything.
November 11, 2012
DEAR ABBY: My daughter, "Renee," is 25 and is an intelligent and independent woman with a good job. She has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, "Bryan," for 6 1/2 years. They have been living together for the past two years. Bryan is nice and has a decent job, and I like him. However, there is virtually no conversation between them about what their future together holds. Renee would like to get engaged, but she refuses to bring anything up to Bryan for fear that he will feel "pushed.