February 20, 2013
DEAR ABBY: While I always enjoy your column, I thought your advice to "Wants My Space," whose son "Dustin" moved away five years ago and expects her to keep his room as he left it, was off the mark. I would have told Dustin what I have told both of my daughters several times: It is not "your" room - I merely let you use it. Not only is "Wants" not obligated to use her home as a storage facility, she's doing her son a disservice by doing it under these circumstances. At 24, he needs to learn that if he wants a service, it's his obligation to procure it. There are plenty of businesses that can fulfill his needs at a reasonable price.
January 11, 2013
DEAR ABBY: This is in response to "Had It in Hartford," who has been unhappily married to her husband for 20 years. She said she married him for all the wrong reasons and "has never loved him the way a woman should love a man. " After I had been married for seven years, I went to my pastor concerned that the grass on the other side was looking greener than mine. As we spoke, I began to realize the extent of the investment I had put into my marriage and that I didn't want to start over again on a new one. Love isn't just a feeling, but a choice and a commitment.
October 5, 2012
DEAR ABBY: Your column has been a fixture in my life. Thank you for the smiles and the tears. My dilemma: I received yet another invitation to someone's home for a "product party. " In the past year, I have been considered a prospective buyer of cookware, candles, makeup, toys and vitamins. While I have at times used all these products, the invitations to sales parties that come from friends, and sometimes friends of friends, irritate me. When I phone to decline, the hostess invariably says, "Oh, you don't have to buy anything.
August 6, 2011
DEAR ABBY: My fiancee, "Vanessa," and I have been engaged almost a year. We're to be married in three months. When I popped the question, I took her to one of her favorite spots in the Smokey Mountains. When I proposed, she was overcome with emotion - but not the kind I would have thought. She said yes, but she wasn't at all happy about being surprised. She doesn't like surprises. At the time, I was sure she had an inkling about my intentions. We had discussed becoming engaged several times.
August 27, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I am a pastor and just received word that a parishioner died yesterday. "Harold" had been hospitalized for a week in another city, and I wasn't notified. A member of his family said, "We didn't know if we should bother you or not. " The saddest part is, I was in that city the night before he died, seeing another parishioner. It would have been easy to visit Harold. Abby, permit me to share three reasons that I want to be "bothered" in the future: First: The one who is ill is entitled to the care and support of his or her faith community.
August 17, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I'm a male who has graduated from high school and is about to start college in another state. I'm ready for a new challenge. The only thing holding me back is a romantic attraction I have toward one of my high school teachers. He and I are best friends, but I love him more than as a friend. I have bought him many meals and gifts since he taught me, and I have found every opportunity available to be with him. I'm not sure if he's aware of my feelings, although I wonder whether I unconsciously make myself obvious.
October 22, 2012
DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. Now, five years later, I can't stand her. She's rude, judgmental and gossips about everyone. She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband's favorite recipes. After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed or omitted certain ingredients in every single one. When I asked about it, she told me she wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.
August 30, 2012
DEAR ABBY : I am 20 years younger than my husband. I am also attractive and sexually available to him. We have a great relationship except for one thing. I can't trust him! I have caught him emailing women he met at work, inviting our neighbor to go with him on a motorcycle ride and heard many stories about him asking women on dates. But the worst was when I found out he was calling a woman every day and going to her house when I was at work. When I confronted him, he said that nothing sexual had happened, but he moved out for a month.
August 23, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I started dating my boyfriend a month ago. On our third date he informed me that he was previously married. It lasted two years and he has been divorced for almost a year. It didn't bother me, so I let it go. He introduced me to his two roommates - one of them is female. After spending a day with them, I noticed he had an odd relationship with her. When I asked him about it later, he said she's his ex-wife. They live together and share basically everything, including groceries and a laptop.
September 28, 2012
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 35 years. We have one daughter. My husband has this "thing" about grabbing other women's behinds. He hugs them and then goes in for a grab. It bothers me so much. It hurts my feelings, and I have told him so. But he still does it. Men have told me they don't want him touching their wives this way. Others have said it's disrespectful to me. He says he will try to stop doing it. Try? That doesn't set well with me. What do you think about this?