May 18, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for eight years, but married only a few months. It took him a long time to finally marry me, and it ended up that I was the one to propose. I am 30, and he's 39. I know he loves me. I have always expressed that I want children, and he did, too. I have been off birth control and keeping track of my cycle, but now he doesn't want to make love. When I try to get him in the mood, he always finds an excuse. I told him he has had plenty of time to let me know whether he didn't want children.
May 17, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband has suggested and arranged for a series of spray-tan sessions for my 12-year-old daughter. I feel that telling my preteen girl that she should spray tan is sending her the wrong message, and we should instead be teaching her that she's beautiful just the way she is. How do you feel about this? Should I allow my 12-year-old daughter to tan? - Tan or Not in Texas DEAR TAN OR NOT: NO! Your ex-husband may mean well, but unless a product is 100 percent safe, I cannot endorse using it on a minor child.
April 22, 2016
DEAR ABBY: When my friend became pregnant, her boyfriend didn't stick around to be in the baby's life. The three of us had gone to school together, and they started dating years later. When she asked me to be the child's godmother, I said yes. The baby is 5 months old now. While I was out at a bar recently, I ran into the boyfriend. My friend is now mad at me because I said hello to him. She thinks I should have ignored him, given him a dirty look, or had words with him in public, but that's not me. She's now saying she never wants to talk to me or see me again.
April 14, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I am a junior in high school. Last year, a guy I have known for two years began showing a sexual interest in me. I rejected his advances. Last week, he began expressing his interest again, letting me know he wanted to have sex. He invited me to study - only study - but said we "might" make out. I was a virgin and had never even kissed anyone before. I had just gotten out of a relationship that didn't end very well, so I liked the attention. I decided I was fine with just kissing, but as soon as I got in his truck, he started to feel me up. He took me to a semi-isolated area, and we ended up having sex. It wasn't fun or pleasurable.
April 12, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend, "Ed," who dated a woman who put him down regularly. He was often depressed, and we would discuss what was wrong. Eventually I told him I didn't think she was good for him and he should end it. Instead, he became reluctant to tell me if anything was wrong. When they got engaged, everyone was shocked. Ed explained it by saying they had been dating for several years so an engagement seemed "logical. " Although many of his friends thought he was making a mistake, we offered our congratulations and support.
April 5, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating an alcoholic for three years. He recently entered a treatment program because after his last binge he tried to kill himself. He seems to be committed to his program and staying sober. He has requested that I stay sober with him for at least a year. While I'm fully committed to our relationship and support him, I don't feel that it's fair that I should have to completely forgo drinking because he has a problem. I'm not looking to go out and party every night - those days are over for me - but I'd like to enjoy an occasional beer with a friend or a glass of wine with my mom. When I approached him about my doing so, he became upset.
April 1, 2016
DEAR READERS: I couldn't let April Fools' Day go by without featuring a few of the more colorful letters that have shown up in my mail recently: A tie, some nice wine, maybe mood lighting DEAR ABBY: I'm getting ready to undergo my first prostate exam. To be honest, I'm a bit nervous. What should I expect? Also, what's the dress code for something like this? I'm thinking about wearing nice slacks and a collared shirt. The doctor has been patient and kind. He hasn't put any pressure on me. I want this to be special.
March 29, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I met a man eight years ago who has become everything to me. We see each other weekly and discuss life, work, home, and more. We are both married to other people. Our relationship is not only emotional, but also physical. We are secretive about our relationship only with our children - we appear in public together, and my spouse knows about it. Many people at our regular venues comment on how much in love we seem to be. A few of my friends are privy to our relationship and wonder when we're leaving our spouses to be together.
March 25, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I find myself sometimes wanting to commit the most heinous of crimes. The desire to do this has been with me my entire life. I was sexually abused by my mother and oldest brother. While that's no excuse, I understand why I may be the way I am. At 51, I have never committed any act against a young girl, but the desire is clearly there for me. The issue before me is that if I seek help for this problem, those who can provide it are required by law in this state to report me. How am I to overcome these urges when no matter what I do I am considered guilty?
March 10, 2016
DEAR ABBY: I've been with my fiance for three years, and I'm very much in love. A few months ago, I asked to use his phone to look up something on the Internet because my battery had died. It opened up to a gay porn site! I was shocked and asked him whether it was something he was looking at. He admitted that it was. Nothing like this has happened to me before, so I began asking whether that's what he likes and is into. He assured me the answer was no. He said he looked because he was simply curious about it. He told me he loves women and doesn't want to be with men. He said he was just looking.