May 8, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I work in a skilled-care facility. I am also preparing for law school. Today one of my co-workers humiliated me in the presence of others by asking if I have been gaining weight. I giggled and said, "Probably. " She proceeded to say that I have gained "a lot" of weight in my "fat face" and told me to get on the scale so she could see how much. I told her it's none of her business. She has done this to me and other co-workers before. Our supervisor likes her and doesn't reprimand her. How should I handle this?
May 7, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I got pregnant by a man I'll call "Ryan," who was just a fling. When I told him, he told me to have an abortion. He even had a friend of his call, offer to pay for it and drive me. Instead, I decided to "abort" Ryan from my life. I never told him when our baby was born. Part of me feels bad because I think every child should know his/her father and family members. Another man has been willing to step up and be a daddy for my child. Should I even bother to let Ryan know?
May 6, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I'm a 13-year-old girl who was taken away from my parents when I was 8 because they were on drugs. I haven't seen my father for three years, but now that he's living with my grandparents and me, I decided to give him a second chance. He has been very "hand-sy" with me - giving me massages, kissing my cheek - and this all makes me very uncomfortable. I thought it was because he hasn't seen me in a while, but today as I was leaving to go to my mom's, he slapped my butt as I walked out the door.
May 3, 2013
D EAR ABBY: Today I saw a former classmate I hadn't seen in 22 years. He always seemed a little slow and different from the rest of us, and he was picked on at school because of it. When I said hello to him and reminded him of my name and that we went to school together, he said, "You danced with me at the prom, and I always thought that was so nice!" I had forgotten that I had danced with him, but obviously the fact that I did meant something to him. My parents raised me to be nice to everyone, even if they weren't in my circle of friends.
May 3, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I'm 25 and have been with my husband for nine years, married for four. I cheated on him twice. He caught me both times. Even though I strayed, he decided to stay. But now he treats me like I'm a child and a prisoner. He took away my phone, my Internet and I can't go anywhere. He says this is my punishment for what I did. Do I really deserve that? I know we're both wrong, but is he more wrong? - Broken Wife DEAR BROKEN WIFE: From where I sit, you are equally wrong.
May 1, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for seven years. We have no children together, but he has two young children from a previous relationship whom I have been raising as my own. They call me "Mom," but they know I'm not their biological mother. Their mother has not contacted them - nor cared to - since the younger one was just months old. My fear is, now that the kids are getting older they may want to form a relationship with her later on. I don't want to seem selfish, but they are my kids.
April 24, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 18 years to a man I have a good relationship with. My problem is that he has always been extremely rude to my parents. They aren't critical or judgmental of him, and they try hard to be friendly and accommodating, perhaps thinking it might lessen the rudeness he continually shows them. Example: If my mom asks him how his parents are doing, without looking up from his cellphone he'll grunt and say, "They're fine" - nothing more. When we go out to dinner, he usually doesn't join in the conversation.
April 23, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My 14-year-old son, "Nils," recently joined a sport he really enjoys. His stepdad and I are at every practice, helping the coaches and coaching my son along. Nils recently commented to me that he would like it if his father could come and see him practice. I took it upon myself, as I usually do, to call my ex, "John," and suggest he make an appearance, because it would make our son happy. My husband, who has been a wonderful stepdad to Nils for 13 years now, told me I should leave it alone.
April 21, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating my boyfriend, "Adam," for three years. Not too long after we started dating, Adam began staying over at my house on most weekends. I live with my mom, who is 47. For the past year when Adam comes to visit, my mom has been coming out of her bedroom in her bra and panties, for the most part exposed. She also makes flirtatious comments to Adam. I have tried talking to her about it, but she continues with the flirting and underdressing. What can I do about this?
April 19, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are contemplating starting a family. I work in the field of social services. Every day I am confronted with families who struggle with more children than they can care for and with behavioral and emotional problems. Frankly, it has turned me off. I am terrified of all the "what ifs. " My in-laws can't understand why we don't have children yet. My husband keeps insisting "everything will be fine. " I love him deeply and he would make an amazing father. I can't picture our future without children, but the fear of actually having them brings me to tears.