May 1, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend for seven years. We have no children together, but he has two young children from a previous relationship whom I have been raising as my own. They call me "Mom," but they know I'm not their biological mother. Their mother has not contacted them - nor cared to - since the younger one was just months old. My fear is, now that the kids are getting older they may want to form a relationship with her later on. I don't want to seem selfish, but they are my kids.
April 24, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 18 years to a man I have a good relationship with. My problem is that he has always been extremely rude to my parents. They aren't critical or judgmental of him, and they try hard to be friendly and accommodating, perhaps thinking it might lessen the rudeness he continually shows them. Example: If my mom asks him how his parents are doing, without looking up from his cellphone he'll grunt and say, "They're fine" - nothing more. When we go out to dinner, he usually doesn't join in the conversation.
April 23, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My 14-year-old son, "Nils," recently joined a sport he really enjoys. His stepdad and I are at every practice, helping the coaches and coaching my son along. Nils recently commented to me that he would like it if his father could come and see him practice. I took it upon myself, as I usually do, to call my ex, "John," and suggest he make an appearance, because it would make our son happy. My husband, who has been a wonderful stepdad to Nils for 13 years now, told me I should leave it alone.
April 21, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating my boyfriend, "Adam," for three years. Not too long after we started dating, Adam began staying over at my house on most weekends. I live with my mom, who is 47. For the past year when Adam comes to visit, my mom has been coming out of her bedroom in her bra and panties, for the most part exposed. She also makes flirtatious comments to Adam. I have tried talking to her about it, but she continues with the flirting and underdressing. What can I do about this?
April 19, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are contemplating starting a family. I work in the field of social services. Every day I am confronted with families who struggle with more children than they can care for and with behavioral and emotional problems. Frankly, it has turned me off. I am terrified of all the "what ifs. " My in-laws can't understand why we don't have children yet. My husband keeps insisting "everything will be fine. " I love him deeply and he would make an amazing father. I can't picture our future without children, but the fear of actually having them brings me to tears.
April 19, 2013
D EAR ABBY : I am a 47-year-old male, married for 26 years. I am hopelessly in love with my wife and still see her as the most beautiful woman in the world. I have always been self-employed and have sometimes been at the extremes of feast or famine. Each time things have gotten really bad, my wife has had an affair to make up for the time, money and attention I can't provide. I feel responsible for failing to meet her needs. My heart is broken, and I feel like a failure.
April 18, 2013
DEAR ABBY : My wife and I have been married 17 years. Lately, though, I have felt that our sexual and emotional intimacy has been lacking. I spoke to her about it. She has responded, and things are improving. Still, she spends most of her time on her cellphone. At bedtime, she stays on her phone or laptop until after I have gone to bed. When she comes to bed, she ignores me and goes straight to sleep. Has she fallen in love with her cellphone? I would just like to be able to talk to her or hold her for a minute before we go to sleep.
April 17, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I am one of four sisters. Two of my sisters, their husbands and I want to plan a trip to Italy. We do not want to include our fourth sister and her husband. None of us likes him or can forgive how he abused her in the past. For her sake, we tolerate him at family gatherings and holidays, but none of us wants to be with him for an extended period. How do we plan this trip while excluding our sister and her husband without hurting her feelings or causing a big family blowup?
April 16, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My daughter died in a car accident two years ago. She and her boyfriend, "Reed," had a 4-month-old daughter, "Angela. " Since then, Reed has been very understanding and liberal with visitations. However, it didn't take him long to find another girlfriend, who has a 4-year-old daughter I'll call "Madison. " The first time I went to pick up Angela, the new girlfriend hinted strongly that I should also take Madison. I didn't like it, but I took her. Abby, Madison is the meanest, rudest child I have ever met. I saw her push Angela down and laugh.
April 14, 2013
D EAR ABBY: Around the time of my sister's wedding, she and her fiance, "Greg," tried to get me and their best man, "Bruce," together. They brought him along when they would visit and encouraged us to date. Not long after the wedding we did start dating. Bruce is a great guy and I enjoy being with him. My problem is, he's my brother-in-law's nephew, even though they are close in age. (Bruce's mom is Greg's half sister.) Am I dating a family member? Are we committing incest?