April 19, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are contemplating starting a family. I work in the field of social services. Every day I am confronted with families who struggle with more children than they can care for and with behavioral and emotional problems. Frankly, it has turned me off. I am terrified of all the "what ifs. " My in-laws can't understand why we don't have children yet. My husband keeps insisting "everything will be fine. " I love him deeply and he would make an amazing father. I can't picture our future without children, but the fear of actually having them brings me to tears.
April 18, 2013
DEAR ABBY : My wife and I have been married 17 years. Lately, though, I have felt that our sexual and emotional intimacy has been lacking. I spoke to her about it. She has responded, and things are improving. Still, she spends most of her time on her cellphone. At bedtime, she stays on her phone or laptop until after I have gone to bed. When she comes to bed, she ignores me and goes straight to sleep. Has she fallen in love with her cellphone? I would just like to be able to talk to her or hold her for a minute before we go to sleep.
April 17, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I am one of four sisters. Two of my sisters, their husbands and I want to plan a trip to Italy. We do not want to include our fourth sister and her husband. None of us likes him or can forgive how he abused her in the past. For her sake, we tolerate him at family gatherings and holidays, but none of us wants to be with him for an extended period. How do we plan this trip while excluding our sister and her husband without hurting her feelings or causing a big family blowup?
April 16, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My daughter died in a car accident two years ago. She and her boyfriend, "Reed," had a 4-month-old daughter, "Angela. " Since then, Reed has been very understanding and liberal with visitations. However, it didn't take him long to find another girlfriend, who has a 4-year-old daughter I'll call "Madison. " The first time I went to pick up Angela, the new girlfriend hinted strongly that I should also take Madison. I didn't like it, but I took her. Abby, Madison is the meanest, rudest child I have ever met. I saw her push Angela down and laugh.
April 14, 2013
D EAR ABBY: Around the time of my sister's wedding, she and her fiance, "Greg," tried to get me and their best man, "Bruce," together. They brought him along when they would visit and encouraged us to date. Not long after the wedding we did start dating. Bruce is a great guy and I enjoy being with him. My problem is, he's my brother-in-law's nephew, even though they are close in age. (Bruce's mom is Greg's half sister.) Am I dating a family member? Are we committing incest?
April 12, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I'm a 50-year-old man who is serving time for robbery in West Virginia. Every day I wake up acting as if I am in control and don't have a care in the world. The truth is, I'm scared, lonely and feel totally helpless. All my life I have lived on the dark side of the street, taking for granted the values in life and the love so many people tried to give me. Two failed marriages and several relationships with good women are over because of my determination to follow an unhealthy dream, not to mention all the friends I have lost as well.
April 11, 2013
D EAR ABBY: What is the correct response when asked at a doctor's office or hospital if you drink? I drink socially, maybe once a month. Should I say yes? If I do, I'm afraid it will imply that I drink more often. I always end up feeling awkward and like I need to explain myself. I'm pretty proud telling them I don't smoke or do drugs, but the alcohol question always gets me. What do other people who drink on occasion usually say? - Filling Out the Forms in Ohio DEAR FILLING: In my doctor's office I was asked that question, and my response was, "Yes, occasionally . " At that point, the follow-up question was, "How many drinks do you have a week?"
April 10, 2013
D EAR ABBY: Three years ago, I found out that my wife of 14 years was sneaking around behind my back with her high-school sweetheart. I confronted both of them and it ended. I forgave her, but I still can't sleep at night because of something that's bothering me. His wife has no idea about the affair, and I feel guilty that I haven't told her about everything that happened. Some of my friends say I should call her and tell her, but now it seems like it happened too long ago to bring it to her attention.
April 8, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I decided to take some classes at a local community college. We both have college degrees, but there was a class we were interested in. We are the oldest students in the class by 10 to 20 years. I am irritated by our classmates' disrespect for the instructor. It takes the form of talking with each other when the instructor is speaking, then asking her to explain what she just discussed while they were talking. They sometimes get so loud that I can't hear what the teacher is saying.
April 8, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with the man of my dreams for five years. Everything is great except for one huge thing - we are no longer intimate. I have recently come to the realization that this isn't the first time I have had this problem. I always thought it was an issue with the relationship, but now I suspect it may be linked to molestation I suffered when I was a child. At that time I was told "people who love you don't touch you like that. " Logically, I know this situation is different, but my partner tells me I just freeze up when we are together.