June 25, 2015
D EAR ABBY: Six months ago, my best friend's fiance raped me. He is a man I've known for many years, and I didn't see it coming. I became pregnant but had a miscarriage two months later. I recently had to have a hysterectomy from damage incurred from the rape and the miscarriage. I never went to the police or pressed charges, and very few people are aware of the whole horrific experience. I have been beyond traumatized by what happened. My best friend knows nothing about it, and I have been unable to face her since that awful night.
July 1, 2013
D EAR ABBY: When we married, we both drank and smoked. My husband quit smoking five years ago, and I have continued to smoke off and on. If he catches me with a cigarette it becomes an argument, and it's either I quit or we're done! I love my husband, but I don't see the big deal if I smoke a cigarette. He sometimes makes me feel like a teenager hiding it from my parents! Any advice? - Closet Smoker in Wisconsin DEAR SMOKER: Surely you know that smoking isn't good for you, and it upsets your husband because he loves you. This is less about a contest of wills than the fact that you are addicted to nicotine and can't stop using.
June 5, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I would like to respond to "Solitary Woman in Ottawa, Canada," the expectant mom who asked how she could raise her child to enjoy "periods of quiet, reflective fun by himself. " When my son was born, I felt it was important to give him confidence and the ability to be self-sufficient. Therefore, we have him help us with chores and encourage him to make healthy, responsible choices. When he was 2 and stopped taking naps, we told him that he had to have "quiet time" and that reading to himself was one of the options.
May 24, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I attended the wedding of the son of some old friends in another state. Rather than buy the young couple a gift, we instead gave them a check for $1,000. Imagine our astonishment when a month later the following arrived in our mailbox: "Dear 'Loretta' and 'Evan,' "Thank you for the generous donation. We really enjoyed spending that money. If ever you feel like you have too much of it, we would gladly take it off your hands. "Love, 'Mason' and 'Candace' " Abby, my husband and I have worked hard for many years in our business and have been blessed by the Lord.
May 10, 2013
DEAR ABBY: We have a grandson who is 4 and very much a "princess boy. " He likes girl toys and dresses and doesn't like any of his boy toys. He's an adorable little boy and we love him to pieces. His parents don't accept this behavior, and I'm afraid it will affect him now and in the future. How would you handle this? We don't say anything to his parents because they are pretty much in denial. - Worried Grandma DEAR WORRIED: If he were my grandchild I'd talk with the parents.
May 10, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I have a friend who I believe is having an affair. I have no concrete evidence, only a slew of circumstantial evidence such as odd work hours, blocks of mystery time set aside at night in his cellphone's day planner, and evading questions about texts from females. I have no idea how to approach him, or if I even should. What makes me uneasy is that it's all based on my hunch. I'm usually pretty good with my hunches, though. Any words of wisdom would be welcome.
May 8, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I work in a skilled-care facility. I am also preparing for law school. Today one of my co-workers humiliated me in the presence of others by asking if I have been gaining weight. I giggled and said, "Probably. " She proceeded to say that I have gained "a lot" of weight in my "fat face" and told me to get on the scale so she could see how much. I told her it's none of her business. She has done this to me and other co-workers before. Our supervisor likes her and doesn't reprimand her. How should I handle this?
May 7, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I got pregnant by a man I'll call "Ryan," who was just a fling. When I told him, he told me to have an abortion. He even had a friend of his call, offer to pay for it and drive me. Instead, I decided to "abort" Ryan from my life. I never told him when our baby was born. Part of me feels bad because I think every child should know his/her father and family members. Another man has been willing to step up and be a daddy for my child. Should I even bother to let Ryan know?
May 6, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I'm a 13-year-old girl who was taken away from my parents when I was 8 because they were on drugs. I haven't seen my father for three years, but now that he's living with my grandparents and me, I decided to give him a second chance. He has been very "hand-sy" with me - giving me massages, kissing my cheek - and this all makes me very uncomfortable. I thought it was because he hasn't seen me in a while, but today as I was leaving to go to my mom's, he slapped my butt as I walked out the door.
May 3, 2013
D EAR ABBY: Today I saw a former classmate I hadn't seen in 22 years. He always seemed a little slow and different from the rest of us, and he was picked on at school because of it. When I said hello to him and reminded him of my name and that we went to school together, he said, "You danced with me at the prom, and I always thought that was so nice!" I had forgotten that I had danced with him, but obviously the fact that I did meant something to him. My parents raised me to be nice to everyone, even if they weren't in my circle of friends.