March 18, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband of eight years had an affair with an old girlfriend, who is also married. I have spent the last nine months trying to forgive him, but he keeps breaking my heart because he can't seem to get over her. First he was sending her emails, then trying to call her because he felt so guilty over the affair and "needed someone to talk to. " Next, he went over to her house to see her. I know he loves me, but I know without a...
March 17, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I are in our 20s and have been dating for five years. We're renovating a home that we will live in once it's completed. We have never lived together before. During the renovation, I have come to the house to find that he has opened packages that were addressed to me. The first time, I didn't say anything because I thought he might have thought it was his. After the second and third times, I mentioned - nicely - that they weren't his to open. He claims he "knew" they were things for the house, which is why he opened them.
March 15, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am divorced and have a 37-year-old son, "Teddy," who lives on his own except when he's in trouble or has nowhere else to go. Then he moves back in with me. The problem is my son is a liar and has been ever since he was a teenager. He even lies when telling the truth would be better. Teddy has been in trouble with the law in the past and is now in trouble again. Of course, he says he's innocent. I no longer want to hear his lies. Another problem: Teddy is extremely good-looking and women swoon over him. He ends up using them and then dumping them, and then they call me. Is there treatment for people who can't tell the truth?
March 14, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been married 30 years and have raised four children to adulthood. I recently found out my husband has been having an affair with a prostitute from a strip club. He paid all her living expenses and promised to marry her. She was 26 when it started; he is 56. He told her his wife had run away with another man and that he was divorced. When I confronted him, he lied, lied, lied. He wants to continue living together and pretend nothing happened. He says he wants to make up for his mistake with me, but all the while he was having unprotected sex. During this long affair, he was brazen, arrogant and abusive to me. Now he wants to be attentive, but he makes me sick.
March 13, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I read the letter you ran from "Dateless in Dayton. " We have a few thoughts for him and anyone else who is having bad luck getting responses on dating websites. Even though we deactivated our memberships in the dating sites we were part of, we still get emails daily that " 'So-and-So' sent you a message. " It appears these sites still show our profiles as active. So it's entirely possible that the women "Dateless" has contacted were inactive or expired members who were never able to see his messages.
March 12, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am a semiretired widow in my 60s. A few months ago, I started spending time with a man I work with. We would see each other once or twice a month, strictly as friends. Our "dates" ended with a platonic hug. About a month ago, a hug turned into an embrace. A week later, the embrace became a passionate kiss. Since then, whenever we get together - now once or twice a week - we spend a good portion of our time together "making out. " We love the way each other kisses.
March 11, 2013
DEAR ABBY: During the first year of our marriage, my husband cheated on me with women from his past as well as new encounters. When I confronted him, he promised to stop. He would then call and email these women, and tell them I was checking up on him and he'd contact them later. This has gone on for years. He swears he's no longer cheating, and we have sought counseling - which I stopped because the counselor and I agreed that my husband didn't think he had a problem. I have considered revenge cheating, but it goes against my morals.
March 8, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am in a county jail for parole violation, and I have been struck with some not-so-good news while here. On a recent visit with my parents, I learned that my mother, who suffers from a variety of health problems, can no longer work. My father, who must work to cover the cost of her medical care, has been diagnosed with liver cancer. I don't feel like I have come to terms with my father's illness. Although I know what is eventually to come, I have yet to feel any emotion, good or bad. I'm not sure if I'm blocking it or if I'm being the strong-willed adult I was raised to be by my father and best friend.
March 7, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am writing to you because I can share this anonymously. I am close to 60 years old, and I'm terrified of the dentist. Every time I pick up the phone to make an appointment, I get so anxious I feel like I'm going to die. Do you think I will be able to find a caring, compassionate and nonjudgmental dentist? Are they out there? Sometimes I wish I could die instead of going to the dentist. Am I crazy? - Mrs. Anxiety in the U.S.A. DEAR MRS. ANXIETY: Let me put it this way - if you're crazy, you have a lot of company.
March 6, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are expecting our first child (a boy) later this year. How do I teach my son to enjoy solitude and his own company? Too many people today turn on the radio or TV because they can't appreciate the quiet. I want my little one to have loving friends, but also periods of quiet, reflective fun time by himself. What's the difference between solitude and loneliness? - Solitary woman in Ottawa, Canada DEAR SOLITARY WOMAN: The difference between solitude and loneliness depends on how an individual handles being alone.