March 28, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I hope you will print this because I'm sure many women share this dilemma. My boyfriend, whom I adore and who is one of the kindest men on Earth, wants me to perform a certain sex act on him. While I understand that many people - and I don't judge them - enjoy it, I am not one of them. I would feel degraded if I even tried it. He says that he won't pressure me about it, yet he talks about it a lot. Just listening to him talk about it puts unwanted pressure on me. I have tried to be honest with him. I told him I don't want to do this, but I'm afraid if I don't, it will damage my relationship with him. However, if I give in, I'll end up with feelings of self-loathing and resentment.
March 27, 2013
DEAR ABBY: "Rita" and I have been together three years and are getting ready to make the final commitment of marriage. My problem is that she's a slob. I don't want to spend the rest of my life in a house that looks the way hers does right now. The thought of raising kids in that kind of atmosphere chills me. I'm no neat freak, but Rita gets offended if I raise the issue. I don't want to nag because her mother already does, and it makes Rita respond like a defiant child. Have you any ideas about what I can do to keep our relationship - and hopefully our future - intact?
March 25, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My friend "Eden" recently told me that her husband constantly compares her to me. It came up because she asked how I was feeling in my first trimester of pregnancy, and I confided that I have been having a tough time keeping up with my household duties. Instead of sympathizing, she said, "Wow! I'll have to tell my husband that, because he's always talking about how clean your house is and how you cook dinner for your family every night. " I was really hurt that she was taking pleasure in my failures.
March 25, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My 25-year-old son, "Mark," lives at home, has a full-time job and dates a girl, "Julia," who is a minister's daughter. Julia is in pre-med and Mark thinks she's wonderful and smart. Abby, when she's here, she holes up in his room and never comes out. She's as quiet as a mouse. I am boisterous, and I get the feeling I turn her off. The last time she stayed over was before an out-of-state interview Mark was driving her to. She never even said hello or goodbye. He made her breakfast in bed, and they sat there laughing and eating with the door shut.
March 22, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old daughter became pregnant from a guy she had dated only a few months, but never seriously. After weeks of wondering what she was going to do, she decided that terminating her pregnancy was the best thing to do considering she has limited income and still lives with me. I, however, am pro-life, although I do feel that in cases of rape or incest it is acceptable. My daughter knows how I feel about this. I supported her in her decision, but did not agree with it. Abby, I have taken this really hard.
March 20, 2013
DEAR ABBY: After 20 years of marriage, I am now again in the dating world - and, wow, have things ever changed! What happened to the days when men would open doors, kiss your cheek, or try to impress you by sending flowers, complimenting you and chasing you to go out with them? Nowadays, the guys expect me to impress them, call them first, etc. What are your thoughts on this? I have been on numerous dates, and out of all of them only one man acted like an old-school gentleman.
March 18, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My husband of eight years had an affair with an old girlfriend, who is also married. I have spent the last nine months trying to forgive him, but he keeps breaking my heart because he can't seem to get over her. First he was sending her emails, then trying to call her because he felt so guilty over the affair and "needed someone to talk to. " Next, he went over to her house to see her. I know he loves me, but I know without a...
March 17, 2013
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I are in our 20s and have been dating for five years. We're renovating a home that we will live in once it's completed. We have never lived together before. During the renovation, I have come to the house to find that he has opened packages that were addressed to me. The first time, I didn't say anything because I thought he might have thought it was his. After the second and third times, I mentioned - nicely - that they weren't his to open. He claims he "knew" they were things for the house, which is why he opened them.
March 15, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I am divorced and have a 37-year-old son, "Teddy," who lives on his own except when he's in trouble or has nowhere else to go. Then he moves back in with me. The problem is my son is a liar and has been ever since he was a teenager. He even lies when telling the truth would be better. Teddy has been in trouble with the law in the past and is now in trouble again. Of course, he says he's innocent. I no longer want to hear his lies. Another problem: Teddy is extremely good-looking and women swoon over him. He ends up using them and then dumping them, and then they call me. Is there treatment for people who can't tell the truth?
March 14, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I have been married 30 years and have raised four children to adulthood. I recently found out my husband has been having an affair with a prostitute from a strip club. He paid all her living expenses and promised to marry her. She was 26 when it started; he is 56. He told her his wife had run away with another man and that he was divorced. When I confronted him, he lied, lied, lied. He wants to continue living together and pretend nothing happened. He says he wants to make up for his mistake with me, but all the while he was having unprotected sex. During this long affair, he was brazen, arrogant and abusive to me. Now he wants to be attentive, but he makes me sick.