November 11, 2015
IT WAS PAINFUL, but it was time for a divorce. We had been together for decades, blissfully happy, devoted, sharing and caring. She supported me through dark periods, reduced my stress, helped me celebrate unlikely victories and commiserate after painful failures. She was always with me. Just before midnight on Wednesday, Sept. 9, I had my last cigarette. I divorced nicotine from my life. Well, not nicotine , as I am still on the patch. I will not vape nor suck on plastic cigarettes or straws because I've got to break the oral link.
November 4, 2015 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: My wife of 20-plus years says that she isn't getting emotional satisfaction from our relationship any longer and that I have to do something about this. This has come as a great surprise to me, but I'm willing to admit that, although I love her deeply, our routine may be just that, routine. But will just changing our routine get her to emotional satisfaction? Without a clearer understanding of it, I'm not sure what I am supposed to do. And I'll do anything.
September 28, 2015 |
WHEN MY PARENTS celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary, I pulled my mom aside at the party that my eight siblings and I held for her and my dad at our childhood Catholic church. "Wow, Ma, 50 years !" I said, thinking of the country's high divorce rate. "How in the world did you guys make it to 50 years ?" My mom was not a philosopher type who slowly unpeeled an issue to its core truth. She was more of an everyday sage who swiftly got to the heart of something that might take others an hour to figure out. "Well, you know," she said, pausing for emphasis, " we never divorced . " I cracked up. My mother was at the beginning of the Alzheimer's hell that would take her life a few years later.
September 24, 2015 |
Question: I am happily married to a wonderful man. Recently, his grown son moved in with us, and I'm fine with that. However, his son uses the word retard quite often, and it bothers me - especially when he uses it with his children, 10 and 4, as in, "Don't be a retard. " My husband said I'm being "politically correct" - not a compliment. I believe it is our responsibility to teach our children compassion, and part of that is not using words that put people down for conditions over which they have no control.
September 4, 2015 |
Pope Francis' arrival in Philadelphia this month comes as Roman Catholicism is losing some of its hold among young Americans, a new national survey finds, and when many Catholics disagree with their church on a broad array of family teachings. With more than a quarter of American Catholics divorced, and 44 percent reporting they have cohabited with a romantic partner without being married, "most American Catholics are comfortable with family arrangements that have been traditionally frowned upon by the church," according to a new poll by the Pew Research Center.
August 28, 2015
D EAR ABBY: A few years ago, my sister-in-law gave me a beautiful watch for Christmas. It became my favorite accessory for any dressy occasion. However, a year ago her brother and I divorced. I still have the watch and would love to wear it, but I'm not sure if it would be appropriate or if I should give it away. Thanks for your input. - Torn in Decatur, Ill. DEAR TORN: The watch was given to you with affection, and even if you wear it in your ex-husband's presence, the chances are small that he would realize who it was from.
August 6, 2015 |
Day of D-D-Divorce!!! What was more remarkable Monday: the rumors that weren't true, or the truths that weren't just rumors? The world gasped to think that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith might actually be divorcing like everybody said they were. But, groan, no, they like each other, get away, yuck. But then the bombs rained down. Beloved country singer Reba McEntire and manager-producer guy Narvel Blackstock announced they were flingin' their rings into the volcano after more than 26 hitched years.
August 5, 2015 |
Will and Jada: No divorce! Dear Joe Q. Public : Get it into your thick, if lovable, skull: Hollywood's perfectest-of-the-perfect power couples, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith , are not getting divorced! The P.R. machine over at Camp Smith went into overdrive Monday to ward off the latest round of rumors that Smith, Philadelphia's greatest contribution to the culture since the Declaration of Independence, was leaving his wife. "Under normal circumstances, I don't usually respond to foolishness," Smith posted on Facebook.
July 17, 2015 |
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes, sometimes, divorce. Even as gay and lesbian couples rejoiced last week over the Supreme Court's ruling in support of marriage equality, attorneys were ready for the inevitable - same-sex divorce. Philadelphia lawyer Angela Giampolo performed her first same-sex divorce 15 minutes after U.S. District Judge John E. Jones III established marriage equality in Pennsylvania in May 2014. According to the Williams Institute at the University of California, Los Angeles, School of Law, which conducts research on sexual orientation and gender-identity law, in states where same-sex marriage has been legal for several years and in those that have allowed nonmarital unions, there was a 1.6 percent annual dissolution rate of those relationships as of December 2014.
July 3, 2015 |
While I'm away, readers give the advice. On divorced people as social creatures: I'm a divorced mom to an elementary-age kid. I'm a social creature - love dinner parties, open houses, family pizza nights, neighbor barbecues, weekend trips. My life was full of this as part of a married couple. But as a "divorcee," I feel excluded from social plans. I usually get a call to get together only when someone's hubby is working late or away on business, or maybe for a moms'/girls' night.