June 25, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I have been married for 19 years, and this is the third time I have caught my wife cheating. I didn't catch her "in the act" because she disguised it behind "vacations with her girlfriends. " What happened was I caught her sending some guy nude pictures of herself and lying about having stayed at a friend's house. (She had spent the night with a guy.) I have remained in this marriage because I wanted to raise all my kids before separating or divorcing. I am leaving eventually, but want to stay four more years to raise my last son. Is it immoral to lie and pretend like I want to work it out?
June 14, 2013 |
LOS ANGELES - News Corp. CEO Rupert Murdoch has filed for divorce from Wendi Deng Murdoch, his wife since 1999, citing a breakdown in the relationship. The matter doesn't alter the succession plan for the media company, which the 82-year-old founder controls through a family trust. Murdoch filed a one-page document Thursday indicating that he was opening a divorce case in New York State Supreme Court in Manhattan. A News Corp. representatve confirmed the filing. A sealed document with the filing says, "the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down irretrievably," according to a person familiar with the matter.
June 10, 2013 |
Sharon Roth-Lichtenfeld and Pat Obst know too much about loss and what they call "forever change. " Roth-Lichtenfeld, a former art director who is now a life coach, lived through a friend's rape and murder, her mother's death when Roth-Lichtenfeld was 34, divorce, a child with special needs, and, last summer, a preventive double mastectomy. Nine women in her mother's family have had breast or ovarian cancer. Obst, a social worker and therapist, dealt with her parents' divorce when she was 17, her mother's death when she was 24, her own divorce, the death of her newborn child in 2002, and, in November, breast cancer.
June 8, 2013 |
MOSCOW - Russian media from all sides of the political spectrum have reacted with unusual compassion to the announcement of President Vladimir Putin's divorce. Putin, 60, and his 55-year-old wife, Lyudmila, announced the end of their marriage less than two months shy of their 30th anniversary in an interview Thursday with Russian television. His spokesman Dmitry Peskov could not say when they would formally divorce. Divorce is common in Russia. Nearly 700,000 Russian couples dissolved their marriages in 2009, according to UNICEF.
June 7, 2013 |
MOSCOW - Russian President Vladimir V. Putin and his wife, Lyudmila, said Thursday that they are divorcing after nearly 30 years of marriage, making the announcement on state television after attending a ballet performance at the Kremlin. "It was our joint decision," Putin said. Lyudmila Putin, a former Aeroflot flight attendant, was rarely seen in public during her husband's long tenure at the top of Russian politics and implied that she didn't like to travel with him on his frequent trips.
May 24, 2013 |
AN OFFBEAT child's-eye view of divorce enlivens a depressingly familiar scenario in "What Maisie Knew. " The title may ring a bell - it belongs to a Henry James short story on the same subject, updated here with a contemporary characters. Julianne Moore is an unraveling rock singer in a disintegrating marriage to a businessman (Steve Coogan) - the only bond they have remaining is their destructive contempt for each other. "Maisie" is often scaldingly bitter - Moore and Coogan allow their characters' destructive hatred to play out without much modulation - and it's a little scary.
May 15, 2013
LAST Friday's column by Christine Flowers raises huge issues, but in effect boils down to one question: Should a married couple stay married for the sake of the children? As a seasoned, veteran family/divorce attorney for many years (I am no longer in private practice), I have tried divorce cases, domestic-violence cases and custody cases, representing husbands and wives equally. And, for the sake of full disclosure, I have been through a divorce and custody trial personally. There is an old adage among attorneys that criminal-defense attorneys see the worst people at their best and divorce attorneys see the best people at their worst.
May 14, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: My boyfriend of a year and a half and I are breaking up. Our fights have turned into WWIII, and he was tired of my being upset because I caught him lying to me a half-dozen times. The kicker is that none of the lies were deal-breaker issues or worthy of the brawls they caused. He feels like the lies might keep a fight at bay, and I feel like lying over insignificant matters just adds fuel to my fire. We have a great time outside of the fighting.
May 10, 2013
ANYONE who's read this column over the past 10 years knows that I'm an immigration lawyer by profession. It makes its way into the conversation every month or so, either directly (as when I'm pleading with my conservative friends to realize that branding someone "illegal" is a political death wish) or indirectly (as when I use examples from my own life to point out how hypocritical the left is - and has always been - about human rights). That column I wrote comparing the young Pakistani girl shot through the head by the Taliban to condom crusader Sandra Fluke garnered inclusion in the Atlantic 's "50 Worst Articles of 2012.
May 7, 2013
D EAR ABBY: I'm responding to your request for comments about the letter from "Happily Single" and whether a divorce would be the first course of action upon winning the lottery. In a community-property state, a divorce after winning wouldn't legally protect you from having to share the spoils with your soon-to-be (and probably now bitter) ex-spouse. My husband and I have talked at length about what we'd do if either of us won the Powerball jackpots. We'd start by consulting a lawyer/financial planner to find a way to protect our privacy before claiming the money.