July 29, 2002
FILE THIS under: Men are from bars, women are from Kleenex. In the interest of science, we present this special bilingual editorial to explore the findings of a new major study that suggests how men and women think differently. (Male version) A new study has found a clue to why women are constantly whining and crying. It seems they are programmed to feel and remember emotions more intensely than men. Some guys from the State University of New York and Stanford hooked up the brains of test subjects and found that women's neural responses to emotional scenes were much more active than the men's.
August 13, 2013 |
Angel has a beautiful smile and infectious laugh. He loves being around people. The 10-year-old is happiest when he is spoken and sung to. He loves having his face painted. Other favorite activities include art, music, being outdoors, and watching movies. Because of medical issues, he is dependent upon others for his care and uses a wheelchair. Although he is nonverbal, he clearly communicates his feelings. When he is happy his face glows with a dazzling smile and he purses his lips to blow a kiss.
November 9, 2005 |
Faking your feelings at work, especially if your boss pressures you to do it, is an important factor in burnout, according to new research from the University of Pennsylvania. Call-center employees were more likely to feel "emotionally exhausted" - a major component of burnout - if their supervisors stressed strict rules of telephone behavior, such as expecting workers to be nice no matter how rude the caller. While good phone manners are clearly important, companies can pay a high price for requiring perfection.
November 23, 2011
DEAR ABBY : I'm a freshman in college and have the sweetest boyfriend in the world. We've always been close and trusted each other. I always thought it was innocent and safe. Last weekend, though, things got a little heavy between us. We stopped before anything happened, but I felt dirty afterward. As I thought about it, I realized that, to me, it had seemed OK that our relationship was starting to take a more intimate turn. Is it wrong for me to think this way? I don't know how to bring up the "sex talk" with him without seeming desperate or like I'm rushing things.
April 26, 2011 |
Question: Two years ago, I got pregnant by my mostly platonic friend, T. After agonizing, I decided to keep the baby, whom I fully expected to raise by myself. To my surprise, T has been incredibly involved in caring for the kiddo, whom he loves dearly. Till now we have really made it work, and have never had a problem with boundaries. T and I are not romantic and probably never will be. In mid-2010, I started dating M. We are now exclusive and serious. Unlike most guys I've met, he did not take off running just because I have a toddler, and he is loving and supportive in every way. The problem is that T cannot stand M. His reasons are unspecific and unfair, but his feelings are very strong.
July 18, 2012 |
The problem is that I feel that in her anger/grief at her situation, she is taking her feelings out on me — she's blamed me for being unsupportive and uncaring (I strongly feel that this is not true). I'm also not the first person she's written off for these reasons. She's so upset with me that she's now declined to be my maid of honor, less than three months before my wedding. Our family is devastated that "we can't get along. " I understand she has been through a lot, but I'm also hurt deeply by her treatment.
February 13, 2013
DEAR ABBY: I just found out that my girlfriend of nearly four years had an abortion when she was in high school. I overheard her during a conversation she was having with someone. I later asked her what was implied when the name of her ex-boyfriend from high school was brought up. She proceeded to tell me what had happened and then said, "I never told you that?" My reaction is feelings of disgust, betrayal and of having been lied to. Am I overreacting or are my feelings warranted?
February 27, 2001 |
Roma Mazza barely let herself cry when her daughter died. Tiny Jeanna Ann was buried on her third birthday. In those days, Mazza was too angry even to pray. But years later, she found a voice she didn't know she had. Or even needed. It came unexpectedly, and in what some might consider an unlikely setting - a poetry-writing workshop at a church day program for the homeless, the ill, the sick-at-heart, and anyone else who needs or wants a place to be with others. Under the title, "Shining Star," Mazza wrote: When I look up in the night And see a shining star I smile, for this tells me You are not too far. In a way, Fred Roberts wasn't surprised at all. "Every person has some poetry within," he said.
April 11, 2012 |
Question: I'm a single guy who has harbored feelings for one of my best friends for a number of years. I've never said anything to her since I don't want to put her in the position of having to reject me, and I know in my head it wouldn't work out due to a number of lifestyle and religious hurdles. She has begun seeing someone. How can I take a break from our friendship without ruining it? ?Answer:Best to lie low for a bit without explaining, since you want to maintain the friendship but you also don't care to play audience to her romance.
July 22, 2010
DEAR ABBY: I am a 20-year-old female who has recently come to terms with the fact that I am bisexual. My problem lies in the fact that I am strongly attracted to one of my best friends. I have liked her for several years, and she is a large part of the reason I discovered I was bisexual. I know she is straight and won't ever feel the same about me, but every time I'm around her, my romantic feelings for her start up again. It has reached the point where I'm considering avoiding her to stop these feelings.