June 5, 2003
The danger . . . that comes when we have an enemy does not create friendship; it creates comradeship. . . . In friendship there is a deepening of our sense of self. . . . Friends probe and question and challenge each other to make each of us more complete; with comradeship, the kind that comes to us in patriotic fervor, there is a suppression of self-awareness, self-knowledge, and self-possession. Comrades lose their identities in wartime for the collective rush of a common cause . . . . In comradeship there are no demands on the self.
July 22, 1996 |
In a culture like ours, in which people are constantly moving, friendships mainly take place against a backdrop of separation. Something like a third of all Americans are likely to move to a new town within a given five-year period. Despite some recent changes, husbands, wives, and young children almost always relocate with their spouse or parent. Mothers, fathers, and adult children sometimes come along, and so do many partners in romantic relationships. But when was the last time you heard of someone moving because their friend was?
December 12, 2011
DEAR ABBY: I am a gay woman. My partner, "Jenny," and I have been friends with another couple for 15 years. Over the past year I have come to realize that I no longer want to be friends with them. One of them has been particularly unkind to me, and frankly, we don't have a lot in common. Jenny is uncomfortable with my decision and wants me to talk with them to discuss my feelings. They have already asked her if there's a problem. If I talk with them, I'm sure they will be offended by what I have to say because I didn't say anything when the issues first arose.
May 4, 2010 |
Caution: There's lots of talk in a musical called The Story of My Life about butterflies and the power of their flapping wings to change the world. And there are snow angels, a running theme - along with many references to the awwww-gee classic film It's a Wonderful Life. Now that I've listed the icky sentimentality, let me tell you why, despite all that, this two-guy musical works. Meticulously staged and smoothly rendered by Act II Playhouse in Ambler, it's an unflinching look at long-term friendship - how it happens, why it grows, how it can unravel, and what occurs after that.
September 22, 2002 |
Natalie Habert and Denise Aiello have faced one of the most difficult tests of female friendship - shopping for post-pregnancy clothes. Friends since February 1994, they met through Citizen Advocates Inc., a Delaware County nonprofit organization that pairs people without disabilities and people with disabilities. Habert, who hates to shop, counts on Aiello's sharp eye for fashion. It was Aiello who in 2000 helped Habert, who had recently given birth to son Daniel Redmond, pick out just the right outfit for a special occasion.
June 10, 2001 |
Sister Kiniaya Awwal and Khadijah Muhammad giggled as they strolled hand in hand, recapturing a friendship that has lasted nearly 50 years. Once divided by religion, the Norristown natives were bonded by their faith yesterday at the annual Islamic Heritage Day Festival. Awwal began studying Islam about 22 years ago, eventually converting from Christianity and moving to Ghana in 1992. When she returned to the United States in 1999, Awwal saw Khadijah at the Islamic festival that year and learned that she, too, was now a Muslim.
December 24, 2000 |
The moment seemed simple enough, two players pounding their fists to congratulate each other on a victory. This was a special moment, though. This was the end to three bitter years for Brian Dawkins and Troy Vincent. The five-year playoff drought was over, a 35-24 victory at Cleveland last Sunday clinching it. On to better things. They are two of only eight Eagles to go through the fall and rise of this franchise, two men who have leaped to high respectability at their positions.
May 12, 1994 |
Kurt Wagner, a Huntingdon Valley teenager and budding chef, was hospitalized two years ago for a kidney transplant. Meeting the Frugal Gourmet was as good for his recovery as chicken soup. The seasoned cook and the novice mixed well and kept in touch. They rekindled their friendship last week at Abington Friends School, which Wagner attends, to raise scholarship money. "I like his sense of humor," Wagner, 17 and a sophomore, said of TV celebrity and cookbook author Jeff Smith, a.k.a.
December 29, 1998 |
If Ray Rhodes is right about old friends and past associations, and if he means to continue in the NFL, the dismissed Eagles coach probably will be working at one of three franchises next season. The best bets appear to be Cleveland, Denver and Baltimore. In Cleveland, the president of the new Browns franchise, which will begin play in 1999, is Carmen Policy, who held the same title with the 49ers when Rhodes was that team's defensive coordinator under Bill Walsh. That association brought Rhodes five Super Bowl rings, victories by the score and the friendships that may land Rhodes his next job. In addition to Policy at Cleveland, Rhodes also has a long friendship with Dwight Clark, the 49ers former pass receiver who moved into the team's front office as prelude to following Policy from the Bay Area to become the Browns director of football operations.
July 4, 1993 |
He is a fit 46 now, a nonsmoker who runs and swims. But 25 years ago he was just a kid from Minnesota on the lines of Vietnam who, every now and again, needed a smoke. The cigarettes that found their way to Steve Horner found him in some odd places - when he was under attack, or at an overnight camp, or in the bush - but they always came from the same place: Joe and Marcia Spatola from Cherry Hill, N.J. And they were free. "I would just smoke and toss 'em, smoke and toss 'em," he recalled.