January 30, 2015 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for five years. We're in our mid-30s. I recently discovered that she has been viewing lesbian porn on our shared home computer. I was stunned. Our sex life is pretty good, but I feel there is plenty for me to be concerned about. Why wasn't my wife comfortable in sharing this with me? Is it possible that deep inside she may be dangerously close to trying a woman? Is it normal for women to fantasize about other women? How should I deal with this issue?
November 18, 2011
Q: I'm in my early 20s and working at my first job. When I started, I was told numerous times by friends and others to avoid interoffice dating. But of course, on my first day there, I noticed a beautiful brunette girl. We ended up dating, and she admitted that she had recently dated another guy in the office, that things had ended badly and that he had certain . . . ahem . . . sensitive pictures of her. He wouldn't leave her alone, so she was forced to go to HR, and he was moved to a separate part of the company.
May 15, 1994 |
What's trendy to nibble when you're tired of tapas? At Mia's, the new restaurant at the Warwick Hotel, they're touting novel noshes they call mezzano. The Italian word, which translates as "middle," originated with early spice traders as a term to describe the cuisines of their Middle Eastern and Mediterranean neighbors. That tells you the background of the foods displayed on Mia's 25-foot-long bar. If the bar isn't crowded - and it wasn't at the time of my late lunch - you can walk up and down casing the goodies that are lined up there in big, colorful bowls.
November 16, 2012
Q: I have been with my fiancée for almost six years. We were engaged and moved into a house a few months ago. Now she says she needs time and space to figure things out. Do I give her time? If so, how much? Steve: I suspect there's a specific reason for her cold feet. Find out what it is. Mia: If things drag on too long, it's not as if you have to sit around and wait for Miss Thing to make up her mind. You need to be living your life, and if that includes dating other honeys, then so be it. Don't be sneaky about it, though.
November 4, 2011
Q: I'm a 40-year-old married man and, not to boast, I'm a fairly good husband. I do all the cooking and food-shopping, have a full-time career, help with the laundry, all the outside jobs, take the kids to school, etc. I shower my wife with affection, waking her up in the morning with backrubs, telling her regularly how hot she looks, spontaneously giving her hugs and kisses in the kitchen . . . and yet, none of that is ever initiated by her. It...
December 6, 2013 |
T HE HOLIDAYS pose a dilemma for lovers, regardless of whether your romance is new or long-standing. What is an appropriate gift? Will my partner misunderstand my intentions? Is it too early in our relationship to buy a sexy gift? We asked romance columnists Steve and Mia to help guide you through. Steve: So, Mia, what's the sexiest holiday gift you ever received? Mia: Lingerie. But it was from a boyfriend that I wasn't into. It weirded me out. How about you?
August 12, 2011
Q After 10 years of marriage, my husband and I have divorced. I'm in my 40s and wonder what kind of men are out there and how easy it is to find one for a serious relationship. Your thoughts? Steve: As Meg said in "The Big Chill," "They're either married or gay. And if they're not gay, they've just broken up with the most wonderful woman in the world. Or they've just broken up with a bitch who looks exactly like me. " Mia: If you're a vibrant 40-something woman, you'll do just fine in the dating market.
March 2, 2012
Q: I've been dating a woman for about a year now and we're headed toward marriage. Everything is nearly perfect except in one area: Cooking. My love enjoys cooking but is terrible at it. I have suffered in silence - it's usually only once a week - but if we marry, I can't imagine spending my life eating her cooking. I'm not very good at it myself, but I can make meals that are edible, at least. She really enjoys being in the kitchen, and I know she'd be crushed if I told her how bad her cooking is. I don't want to mess this up. Any solutions?
September 2, 2011
Q: My significant other and I have been seeing each other for 12 years. After six years of great sex, she started pulling back. She referred to my petting as grabbing. She never really liked to kiss. Then she stopped having intercourse. I consider myself a touchy-feely man, and I miss the closeness. I've stayed with her hoping that she would change, but she hasn't. I am 73 years old. She is 64, attractive and physically active and takes care of her health. She refuses to seek counseling.
October 29, 2010
Q: If my first boyfriend from 40 years ago e-mailed me and sent me his phone number and told me to call, should I have called him? I've talked to him twice in 40 years. I didn't feel comfortable calling him. It has a lot to do with all of the rejection I've had all my life. At some point, you just give up. Mia: Miss talking to him, don't you? Don't play games, call that man, do it today. He'll be glad to hear from you. As for your man baggage, dump it. If you don't, you'll never find happiness in a relationship.