April 5, 2013 |
Q: When do men stop asking to have sex all the time? We've been married for 25 years now, and I'm ready for that phase of our lives to be over already. I have a fat stomach. He has a fat stomach. It's not like it's all delicious or anything. What I want to know is, when does it end? In a way, I'm flattered that he is still wants me, but c'mon! Mia: Yo, girlfriend, I can't relate. Your man thinks you're hot and you don't like it? Women would love to trade places with you, but you have the nerve to complain.
November 18, 2011
Q: I'm in my early 20s and working at my first job. When I started, I was told numerous times by friends and others to avoid interoffice dating. But of course, on my first day there, I noticed a beautiful brunette girl. We ended up dating, and she admitted that she had recently dated another guy in the office, that things had ended badly and that he had certain . . . ahem . . . sensitive pictures of her. He wouldn't leave her alone, so she was forced to go to HR, and he was moved to a separate part of the company.
May 15, 1994 |
What's trendy to nibble when you're tired of tapas? At Mia's, the new restaurant at the Warwick Hotel, they're touting novel noshes they call mezzano. The Italian word, which translates as "middle," originated with early spice traders as a term to describe the cuisines of their Middle Eastern and Mediterranean neighbors. That tells you the background of the foods displayed on Mia's 25-foot-long bar. If the bar isn't crowded - and it wasn't at the time of my late lunch - you can walk up and down casing the goodies that are lined up there in big, colorful bowls.
November 4, 2011
Q: I'm a 40-year-old married man and, not to boast, I'm a fairly good husband. I do all the cooking and food-shopping, have a full-time career, help with the laundry, all the outside jobs, take the kids to school, etc. I shower my wife with affection, waking her up in the morning with backrubs, telling her regularly how hot she looks, spontaneously giving her hugs and kisses in the kitchen . . . and yet, none of that is ever initiated by her. It...
October 29, 2010
Q: If my first boyfriend from 40 years ago e-mailed me and sent me his phone number and told me to call, should I have called him? I've talked to him twice in 40 years. I didn't feel comfortable calling him. It has a lot to do with all of the rejection I've had all my life. At some point, you just give up. Mia: Miss talking to him, don't you? Don't play games, call that man, do it today. He'll be glad to hear from you. As for your man baggage, dump it. If you don't, you'll never find happiness in a relationship.
April 12, 2013 |
Q: I went to my high-school reunion last weekend and met an old lover I hadn't seen in 20 years. We chatted, caught up with each other. I told him I'm happily married and gave him no hint of interest at all, but when the evening came to an end, he made a pass at me! It was as if he thought he could have me again, just because of the past. I was more annoyed at his presumption than insulted. Did I make a mistake even talking to him? Steve: As Proust observed, "Time, which changes people, does not alter the image we have retained of them.
November 16, 2012
Q: I have been with my fiancée for almost six years. We were engaged and moved into a house a few months ago. Now she says she needs time and space to figure things out. Do I give her time? If so, how much? Steve: I suspect there's a specific reason for her cold feet. Find out what it is. Mia: If things drag on too long, it's not as if you have to sit around and wait for Miss Thing to make up her mind. You need to be living your life, and if that includes dating other honeys, then so be it. Don't be sneaky about it, though.
February 6, 2012 |
For all the pomp and excess of Madonna's Super Bowl halftime extravaganza, a single extended middle finger by guest singer M.I.A. is likely to be the most remembered piece of the show. The gesture, accompanied by a barely disguised expletive, came during a performance of Madonna's new single, "Give Me All Your Luvin'. " At the end of her lines, M.I.A. appeared to sing "I don't give a [expletive]," although it was hard to hear clearly. The incident was reminiscent of Janet Jackson's infamous "wardrobe malfunction" on CBS eight years ago. The brief exposure of Jackson's nipple during the 2004 halftime show raised a storm of controversy.
August 12, 2011
Q After 10 years of marriage, my husband and I have divorced. I'm in my 40s and wonder what kind of men are out there and how easy it is to find one for a serious relationship. Your thoughts? Steve: As Meg said in "The Big Chill," "They're either married or gay. And if they're not gay, they've just broken up with the most wonderful woman in the world. Or they've just broken up with a bitch who looks exactly like me. " Mia: If you're a vibrant 40-something woman, you'll do just fine in the dating market.
March 2, 2012
Q: I've been dating a woman for about a year now and we're headed toward marriage. Everything is nearly perfect except in one area: Cooking. My love enjoys cooking but is terrible at it. I have suffered in silence - it's usually only once a week - but if we marry, I can't imagine spending my life eating her cooking. I'm not very good at it myself, but I can make meals that are edible, at least. She really enjoys being in the kitchen, and I know she'd be crushed if I told her how bad her cooking is. I don't want to mess this up. Any solutions?